I have two thoughts. First, from my experience, doing Kegel exercises may help your vagina feel tighter and give him more friction. Also, when I am on top I lean toward his face and let my breasts touch his lips, between that and his hands on my rear, that cleared up his problems!

I am sure others have good suggestions, too!

Honey,

Do not lay the blame on yourself. Read around, try different positions and spend more time getting him ready. This will work out.

as some one corectly said everyone is responsible for their own orgasm at most his/her partner can help him/her acheive it. try lube if you or even he gets sore

Your concerns are one of the most asked on the Board and this is why Brandye asked you to do a search and to look around beforehand. Here is a partial copy of a reply from yesterday.

"It is important to know that we do not give orgasms away. Each of us is responsible for our own. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve his/her own. That said, each of us must teach the other how we masturbate and then to guide his/her hand several times until we learn to mimic the movements, rhythm, and pressures, unique and specific to each of us.*

Feedback is crucial. Without information on how we are reacting to our lover's caresses, we'll have a 50/50 chance of getting it right. With something so imporant, who wants this as their batting average?**

I therefore urge that each of you demonstrate how you masturbate and then take each other's hand and guide it during several sessions until you learn what works."

* We all understand the basic mechanics involved in stroking a penis and fingering a clitoris; however, each of us, upon learning to masturbate develops a specific technique that is specific and unique to each of us. It is this "art" that must be taught to our partner. Whether we masturbate or have our partner provide the stimulation, if we are off the mark just a little either the orgasm will not happen, or, if it does, it probably won't be as expected.

** Communication is key to a successful relationship. Feedback is part of this. When we masturbate we benefit from an internal feecback that lets us modulate our movements and make tiny "midcourse" corrections along the way. When we turn over control to our partner, there is no internal feedback. In order to convey how s/he is doing, how we are responding, and for what we may need--now, we must switch to either verbal and/or non-verbal feedback. Verbal can be a word or utterance that informs; non-verbal can be a squeeze of the hand or some other form of body english that conveys a specific meaning that the two of you work out.

> ...every single time he ends up either slipping out of me, or just thrusting away getting more and more frustrated while i get tired and sore (despite trying different positions).

Here is more from yesterday's reply:

"If one and/or the other of you are placing greater emphasis on stimulating the genitals in order to build to an orgasm then you have your priorities backwards. This is the purpose of all the kissing and caressing that leads up to it. Done correctly, stroking simply maintains the high level of arousal already established, and thrusting peaks and triggers the orgasm. Both of you should be at or near the trigger point of your respective orgasms when beginning intercourse. If you give him a hand job mimicing his movements, he should reach 'critical' in short order and without a lot of time and effort." ***

*** Tired? Sore? You mention two of the three {bored) that gets discussed a lot on here. This is an indication that the two of you have your priorities backwards. For you, he needs to devote no less than half an hour, and much more if possible, directly building toward your arousal and peaking your excitement, anticipation, and, tension. It takes most women this long, most of the time.

Guys on the other hand can reach this critical state moments after simply having a randy thought! Devoting this time toward your preparation will just highten his, also. This is the purpose of making out--kissing & caressing. It begins with Necking, progresses to Petting, moves right along to Heavy Petting, then eventually gets to Foreplay. If you or others reading this do not have definitions for these age old terms, here they are:
Necking-- kissing and caressing restricted to the shoulders and above
Petting-- Fooling around with clothes on (no genital involvement)
Heavy Petting-- Fooling around with tops partially or fully removed
Foreplay-- The above that now involves the genitals, first covered and later, uncovered as the heat of passion and desire continue to build. This is the realm of the hand job and oral sex, etc.

If intercourse goes on for longer than ~ten minutes then guys are going about the process of making love all wrong by placing the proverbial cart before the horse. Frequent reports from women are that if orgasms do not occur within this timeframe they do in fact become tired, bored, and sore.

That he slips out is no big deal. It happens once in a while during vigorous and enthusiastic thrusting. If it happens to him more often, then he has to concentrate on and monitor the length of his stroke and not exceed it. Now, having said that, when he is just stroking, there is some play that he can do that involves pulling out more than once and reinserting. In a word, it is a form of teasing and enticement!

> no matter what i do i cant seem to make a guy climax during sex.

Asked and now answered. You must shift the cart and horse around and use the fooling around the two of you do to build each other's level of arousal, excitement, and tension, so that you are at or very near the trigger point of an orgasm before beginning intercourse.

Alternately, if your desire is to have him climax from oral, then combine this with a hand job. This is the "dynamic duo" and will work far better than simply oral by itself.

Learn where his "hot spots" are located. The absolute number one spot is the Frenulum {Y-shaped) ridge of skin extending from the cleft of the Glans to the top of the shaft. Rub this by itself or in conjunction with oral and he is guaranteed to climax immediately, if not sooner!

One or more others will be found distributed around the Corona Rim where the Glans and Shaft join. Working these hotspots by hand and/or mouth, will bring about an orgasm very quickly.

Begin with stroking his penis. You can also end here.
Progress to oral.
As things move along, combine oral and stroking for the ultimate turn on.

When the two of you are near or at the trigger points of your orgasms, then begin intercourse--not until.

> I cant seem to find any advice anywhere because its always women who cant climax, not men!

Here is your action plan: Have him teach you how he masturbates, then have him guide your hand several times during more than one session until you learn to mimic his specific actions of stroking, rhyhm, and pressures. (BTW, the same holds true in reverse for you with him.)

Make use of all the fooling around the two of you do to actually build each other's level of arousal to the brink of an orgasm, or nearly so, beforehand.

Here is even more from that post:
"For you this day, it is important to know and understand that very few sexual positions lend themselves toward permitting a woman to climax during intercourse. Three that do are the Woman Superior, the Missionary in which the man rides high up on the woman's torso, the "X" and "Y" in which a couple reclines face to face, the difference being in how the legs are positioned.

What guys usually do is to reach around and finger the clitoris and environs while engaged. Even better is when the woman (also) has an orgasm before and/or after if it is her wish. So, your concern about not being able to climax during intercourse has a universal solution. In concert with proper fingering, you should be able to enjoy an orgasm rather quickly."

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

"Eeeyup"....
In addition to spending much time to just making out, there should be an emotional connection between the two of you in order for the pheromones to freely fly in the air between you and the sparks to go off.

Just doing the kissing and the caressing from A-Z is one big plus to a successful climax, yet the best most intense orgasms are when there are "sparks", too.

You're on the right track, so take what you have learned and put it into practice and practice and practice.......

This is really strange if this has happened with every lover she has had. Generally, it is not hard for the average guy to come during intercourse.

The only time i have problems is when my wife's vagina gets way too relaxed and way too wet. At that point, my penis goes in and out so easily that it reduces the sensation. If that happens, I can still get there but it takes me figuring out what feels good to me.

If this has happened with every guy you've been with, I would look into Kegels or something to try to make yourself tighter for him.

ua,

If your respective body types allow it, have her close her legs after you enter leaving your legs on the outside. When I do this, on the bottom, I can bring greater pressure on the penis in me and I can get some nice stimulation for myself.

Not all couples can do this.

[QUOTE=Brandye]ua,

If your respective body types allow it, have her close her legs after you enter leaving your legs on the outside. When I do this, on the bottom, I can bring greater pressure on the penis in me and I can get some nice stimulation for myself.

Not all couples can do this.[/QUOTE]

I think I understand what you're describing and I've done that many times. Honestly, she's not a hell of a lot of help, so I do whatever helps me finish on those occasions.

Like everyone says: you're responsible for your own orgasm.