Well when me and my girlfriend make out, after about 15-20 minutes I can sorta tell it's time to take it a bit further. My hand goes to her legs and squees the top of the thigh an rub my hand's all around, after about five minutes of that I actually move to the vagina where I play with her clitoris for a while an insert fingers (An she is very wet) not to long after while playing with her clit. However I have to keep playing with her and kissing her for like an hour before she even touches my penis, and then its only for about 5 seconds. then another 10 minutes before she goes back there. She after awhile starts to give me a wank... but I just cringee because well girls cant give wanks in all fairness I think there **** lol.
Right we where virgins when we met & recently lost our V together when my dad went on a buissness trip. The night was perfect We where jus making out for about 4 hours had a little break... started agen and by the time we actually did it it was 7 hours in to the making out session. My penis was in her for about 2 minutes, an slipped out, then left it for 10 seconds an penis jus went soft... it had been up all night the poor thing (and most the time he was up he didnt get any attention). lol.
I have fingered her about 10 times, and she has give me about 2 wanks... what do I do? I dont like to tell her to do stuff, but its pretty annoyin cos I'm gettin horny to.
just take some time, before you get in the mood and all horny.
I find as a guy i never try to have serious relationship conversations while horny and erect.
Say something to open the discussion about sex/foreplay.
Ask her a question like "how do you feel about our sexual activity?"
make the initiative of showing your going to actively be interested in her satisfaction and be open about hearing how she feels about her needs.
The reason why you do it this way is cause then you have set a format for her to comfortably follow in returning the same questions to you.
she may be embarassed or scared. She may feel stupid or ashamed of her fear of touching your penis.
so you set the tone so that she can be enlightened by the an open door of opportunity to discuss some things that are bothering her.
You dont want her to feel pressured or inadequate. You want her to feel comfortable, motivated and excited to learn the ways of giving stimulating foreplay.
Yea she may just feel like that you aren't enjoying it...since you said she's not good at it... so she just avoids it all together rather than feeling like a "loser" than she can't do it right.
Next time she does start to go down there... just put your hand on top of her. Guide her as to the grip and the speed.
I was much the same way... as since I had no clue as to what I was doing.. I would avoid it as long as possible LOL
Next time she touches you say “ mmmm that’s so nice “ later on ask her to do it a little harder softer ect.
Remember she dose not have one so you have to tell her what is good and what id not
You have had him ( Mr Penis) for a good 18 years I suspect she has only had his for a few hours
What's a wank?
English terminology for handjob lol.
Buttercup thanks (ofcourse 2 other people 2) but you said something that made it click in my head. I don't enjoy the her handjobs and she can probably feel dat lol so next time I'll jus "like it" lol maybe guide her.
Good news tonight, she just started playing with it before I played with her :D she didn't hurt me tonight.
Cept one time, she really starts hurtin me an I think she thinks I like it cos the way I breathe lol...I wanna say something but I dont wanna embarras her.
Maybe you need some lube on it. I know when we use lube there is almost no way she can squeeze hard enough to make it hurt while she pumps my shaft.
[QUOTE=James2007;172558]Good news tonight, she just started playing with it before I played with her :D she didn't hurt me tonight.
Cept one time, she really starts hurtin me an I think she thinks I like it cos the way I breathe lol...I wanna say something but I dont wanna embarras her.[/QUOTE]
This is just stupidity. I have several posts and at least one that is a Sticky in which I recommend that both the man and the woman demonstrate for the other how they masturbate and then guide the other's hand over several episodes until s/he learns how to mimic what we do when alone. In addition, I have discussed the matter of giving each other feedback on how we are responding to their caresses, and, for what we want--now.
In all liklihood you will not embarrass her if you have a discussion that is informative rather than confrontational. At this point you are your own worst enemy.
omg you idiot you have to tell her it hurts!!!! sure it'll be soooooooo embarrassing but she'll learn.
and you wonder why us girls dont feel comfortable 'returning the favour'.. we dont know what we're doing, and you dont tell us.
talk to her about it, or drop hints. or AT LEAST when she's doing it and it hurts say 'ouch' and she'll stop being so rough, learn from it and never doing it again. and that way, no embarrassing conversation lol.