I don't have many turnoffs, but lately, my gf of a few years has decided that she no longer wants to wax her upper lip. Unfortunately, that is one of my hugest turnoffs.
I don't mind if a girl doesn't shave her legs, wax chin, etc. but for some reason, the upper lip is a big one for me. I brought it up with her before, and she said "too bad"...
So I'm not pressing the issue anymore, but I find that I can't get myself turned on at all around her.
Any suggestions?
I grow hair; we all do. Some of it, I choose to limit and some I do not. If a b/f does not like my choices he is free to find someone who does it as he wishes.
Once again, EEK has the answer
If it will affect how you see her you have to tell her. I know my wife and I tell each other everything before it's escalates into a problem. If something was to hinder my wife's attaction to me I would change it pretty quick. My wife has a similar view.
I agree with you that it is a major turn off man. I once a girl practically begging me to sleep with her and I just couldn't get past the little bit of facial hair on her upper lip. I hated that fact cuz I am not shallow by any means but it was just something I couldn't get past.
Anyway, I agree that you need to really talk to her about it and hopefully she will understand. Like Buck said, if it is killing the attraction then it is a big issue.
That's the problem... I did talk to her, I approached it very gently, and for a while, she continued to wax, but lately she doesn't seem to care, even when i told her it's one of my biggest turnoffs.
Without knowing her, it's hard to know what's going through her head. The question that keeps running my head..."Is she trying to tell you something?". It seems odd that anyone would become unattractive to their partner by design.
Another suggestion is to ask what you can do to make yourself more attractive to her. Kinda like a trade. I remember my wife and I talking about our sexual frequency and I asked what I could do to help elevate her sex drive. To my surprise she said "help out around the house". I was puzzled how one affected the other, but I was game. To my shock, it worked, and worked well. I've never stopped doing my fair share and our sex life has never been better. It makes sense. Now, she doesn't have as much to worry about so she is free to enjoy her spare time.
I guess the point I'm making is you shouldn't make it all about what she's doing (or not doing). Maybe if you do something that would be just for her, she may return the favor.
Man, I hate that crap. It makes them look so weird and like manly sometimes, its just ew.
One reason she may not enjoy waxing is because it hurts. True or not, she does use a razor on legs and under arms, so why not the upper lip?
I think it does hurt her, and is why she hates it so much, but unfortunately, that doesn't stop the fact that it's a major turnoff.
Look the answer is simple - either get over it or get a new gf and yes waxing hurts like hell. If in doubt try it yoursself on your beard.
Such questions bring up the issue of balance and compromise in a relationship.
1. if you care and she doesn't then she complies
2. if she cares and you don't then you comply
3. if neither of you care then pffft what are you really arguing about
4. if you both care - then you two will have to seek agreement somewhere
if she doesn't like waxing then perhaps she could shave with a razor
BUT if she doesn't want to do anythng about it - that is her perogative - it is her body to do with as she will and the idea of a woman having to change for another person is somewhat repugnant so once again - the answer is simple - accept it or move on
she feels comforable with you to be herself. maybe at first she was unsure how you would feel about it but now she feels relaxed. maybe she feels like she doesnt have to impress you anymore. maybe she feels like you should accept her with all of her flaws.
Wow that really sucks.
Well I would say simply get a new girlfriend.
OR you could "let go" of yourself by making apparent a disgusting habit, maybe letting some not so nice things about you turn her off. This would be the "show her how it feels" method.
all of this angst over a little hair
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;235554]all of this angst over a little hair[/QUOTE]
yup
I think a little shallow too..
maybe if it grew to full Moustache then there maybe an issue:D
hmmm now that got my brain thinking..:eek:
this hair on the upper lip thing
that some find a turn off or disgusting..
could it be sort of a homophobic thing?
Honestly, any hair where it is not traditionally suppose to be is a turn off for both sexes. Guys start growing excessive ear and nose hair if their later years and I'm sure most women want their guys to get rid of it.
Yes and most barbers/hairstylists that do men - do that for them.
The thing is - it bugs the men more than it bugs the women they're with simply because hair from nose and/or ears means the men are aging.
[QUOTE=Buck Naked;235559]Honestly, any hair where it is not traditionally suppose to be is a turn off for both sexes. Guys start growing excessive ear and nose hair if their later years and I'm sure most women want their guys to get rid of it.[/QUOTE]
Honestly you will find alot of woman dont really give a poop
about mens hairy ears etc..
Woman tend to be not so shallow :D
Sorry to dissapoint you Buck:D
[QUOTE]this hair on the upper lip thing
that some find a turn off or disgusting..
could it be sort of a homophobic thing?[/QUOTE]
No, I'm not homophobic at all. I'm actually a proud supporter of LGBT causes. It's just personal taste. Call it shallow, but I believe everyone is allowed to have their "turn-offs" quirks.
[QUOTE]OR you could "let go" of yourself by making apparent a disgusting habit, maybe letting some not so nice things about you turn her off. This would be the "show her how it feels" method.[/QUOTE]
I thought about that, but in the long run, a revenge type (because that's what it is), could only hurt the relationship. If anything, I should try to inspire to show I still care about grooming.
Eek, solid advice as usual... It comes down to me getting over it, me getting a new girlfriend (which I'm not going to do), or her waxing. I guess I'll try to get over it, but it does kill my desire some.
Now I am paranoid!!! lol
Are we talking about peach fuzz upper lip hair?? or is it like dark/course enuff that its very noticeable.
I do have a slight peach fuzz on most of my face lol is that normal?
[QUOTE=demonbuttercup;235702]Now I am paranoid!!! lol
Are we talking about peach fuzz upper lip hair?? or is it like dark/course enuff that its very noticeable.
I do have a slight peach fuzz on most of my face lol is that normal?[/QUOTE]
lol Im not sure either
I'm have a vision of a big hairy full fledged moustache lol :D
[QUOTE=calipirate;235697]No, I'm not homophobic at all. I'm actually a proud supporter of LGBT causes. It's just personal taste. Call it shallow, but I believe everyone is allowed to have their "turn-offs" quirks.
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It was just a thought..
I know myself ..... a guy with a very bushy moustache and beard reminds me of a hairy vagina lol I doubt I would want to kiss that:D:D
Despite my efforts to get people to see that it is the PERSON that is important and not the PACKAGING, they persist in "ooo big breasts, no hair anywhere, hardbody" yadda yadda yadda.
I do wish y'all would remember he/she could be the epitome of what you think is sexy, wonderful, and gorgeous on the outside but if she//he is a poisonous monster on the inside - your life is Hell.
Yes, I have a 'thing' for teddybears aged 40 to 60 but that does NOT mean that other men stand no chance at all.
Grow up, pretty babies, grow up.