Last night I was having phone sex with my man and I was rubbing my clit for more than 2 hours and still could not cum. It felt OK for 99% of the time. Sometimes a better feeling would start to creep up on me but then always leave no matter what I did. I was extremely turned on and relaxed and everything but still could not cum. I know that some people take forever but 2+ hours of masturbating and no cumming is ridiculous! What are some possible reasons for this? It was really frustrating!
Sat, 08/07/2004 - 09:01
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Girl can't cum!
In the Golden Posts is a rather lengthy one on "female Sexual Response."Read it.
Hmm, I see. At least I know that I'm not alone. I'm hoping that that was a one time thing where my body was just being difficult. And I'm still scared of vibrators because I already found out that I can become dependent on a certain way of cumming (shower) and don't want that to happen again.
Yes, that has happened to me bofore. more than once! Sometimes your body just does not cooperate. Can't help it.
And I don't know how someone could get dependant on a vibe. I use a vibe more frequently than not if I'm just satisfying myself. But when I use my hand (and work through the hand/wrist pain to orgasm) it is usually soooo much more intense than the vibrator. The vibe is just easier if I'm lazy and just wanna cum.
I know that lots of women can have trouble sometimes cumming from sex, myself included, but what I really want to know is if any other girls have touched themselves for a long period of time without being able to cum? Because in that instance, if I can't even make myself cum, there's no way in hell my man would be able to. I know exactly what I like and keep up the exact touch, pressure, rhythm, speed that I need but STILL can't cum.
well ive had times w/ sex not masturbating where it feels really good and i keep getting REALLY close but nothing seems to push me over the peak. it can be frustrating especially if you've been working at it for 2 hours like you said.
for me, i guess sometimes its just my mood, or maybe at certain times of the month where it just won't happen. i don't know lol.
I have cum from phone sex before so that is not the issue. Also, I WAS happy that my man enjoyed it. That turned me on even more which is why I am surprised that I could not cum. I just really wanted to. I'm just wondering if any other girls have that happen to them, where it feels alright (kind of good but nothing spectacular) and then it only gets good right at the end, but then fades away? And I'm scared of vibrators. I was already semi-dependent on the shower method of cumming but I weaned myself off of it. I could not cum at all in any other way when I used the shower head. I am not trying to become dependent on a vibrator now.
Have you tried using a vibrator? I can rub my clit with my fingers and usually cum but sometimes it doesn't happen or it takes to long and I don't have that kind of time for whatever reason. The vibrator can do the job for me in a very short time. There are so many great ones out there.
[QUOTE=Quote (Tessie @ Aug. 07 2004,06:57)]Have you tried using a vibrator? I can rub my clit with my fingers and usually cum but sometimes it doesn't happen or it takes to long and I don't have that kind of time for whatever reason.[/QUOTE]
same here lol.
my hand starts getting tired.
i usually break out my vibe during sex after its been like 20 minutes and im starting to get tired and sore. lol.
its like come on!! then w/ like 2 minutes of the vibe im out of the ballpark!!!
do you think that bothers guys? my b/f doesn't seem to mind, he bought me the vibe to begin w/.
"Frustrating" but it "felt ok 99% of the time..."
I know it's probably weird to hear a guy say this, but sex is not always about cumming. I've engaged in enough long distance sex to say with confidence that many times I've been very satisfied with enjoying my partner's pleasure. Cumming was not necessary for me - and in some cases not possible because of the situation.
There could be any number of reasons why you didn't cum, including the fact that phone sex just "doesn't seem to work" for some people. (You haven't said whether or not you've had sessions when you did cum.)
Sometimes things just don't "work."
Keep trying.
(But also remember that trying hard is often what prevents it!)