Well ill just get to the point, I think me and my g/f are almost ready to have our first time, while it will not be my first time it will be hers and i have a couple of questions.
While this wont be my first time, i do have trouble with getting my condom on in a timely matter as i have foreskin, is there any way for me to pratice or any tips anyone can give me?
Also i have problems "getting off" durning sex due to the condom but we have both agreed to use one every time, is there any advice anyone can give me as to how to get my condom on more easly and what kind i should buy to get the maxium for the both of us on our first time.
I dont want her to feel that she cant please me, while she has been the only one of three to ever get me off, ever, she still has trouble even during oral, we have been with each other almost a year now and are complety open with each other ( she is still a bit shy about things though ) i want this to be a special occasion for the both of us as we are ready to move to the next level.
and as this is her first time and ive never been with a virgin is/are there any tips or things i should know, I know her first time may be painfull and i would like to know anyway to ease that as it has been a major factor in why we have waited this long.
The most important thing anyone can tell you always a condom and always a vaginal spermicide in her first! Vaginal jelly lubricates, whish is good for first timers, and increases the effectiveness of the condom greatly. The first tube should "with applicator."
Is there any way to paractice? Yes. Practice. put one on and take it off until you are comfortable that you can get it done. A very small dab of vaginal jelly in the condom will lubricate things so your foreskin can move around a bit.
thaks to the reply, i have also check into a birth controll shot for her but i dont really want to have to ask her to go through the exam, we will have to decide on it.
ll women should have a gyn exam prior to becoming sexually involved. A gyn exam is part of life! Discuss birth control options, search them out together on the Internet and let her make an informed decision! And be certain it is a safe choice for you as well!
well she has had one before, im 100% certen of this as her parents dont trust her but for w/e reasons seem to trust me lol.
anyway I have one last question, does it matter if i leave my foreskin up or pulled back when using a condom ive heard it doesnt matter.
I just dont want to have to go through another exam, even though the shot for birth controll is free here at my health deparment, im not shure if it will hurt her or not i will have to duscess this with her.
but i belive i have made a good descion in choise of condoms for our first times ( regular ones that the health department offers) and regular Ky from my local pharmacy.
sorry for the double post, but i forgot to add something.
When giving my g/f oral im not shure i am fully pleasing her, she says says I am, but im not entirely shure. she does have to take a few minutes after wards to rest because she says she cant move, and that i have gave her mutapile orgams.
is this a good sign, or am i just beeing fooled?
You have to believe what she is telling you! That's part of the trust thing. As far as the Depo shot, it does not hurt, it's like any other injection. Now a days the syringes are prefilled and many patients are taught to do it for themselves. If it was very painful the average person could not do it and it only has to be administered every three months. There is nothing wrong with using condoms and spermicides if in doubt and there are less potential side effects.
Leave your foreskin where it is most comfortable for you. As Brandye said put some jelly in there.
Give this a read too:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/ic_herfirst.shtml
There's the additional point of "it is not her job to get you off" and vice versa. Each os you is responsible for you own orgasm. This does not mean you do not do what you can to please and to help that orgasm along but that the ultimate responsibility lies with each partner.