My gf prefers uncut men as opposed to cut, which I am. She tells me that I hurt her with my penis even after she is wet. She says uncut men feel smooth, similar to vibrators, while uncut men feel rigid upon entering.
I've never had this situation before. What can I do or not do to make her feel comfortable with me? I am getting performance anxiety because of it :(
[QUOTE=Phamine;155253]She says uncut men feel smooth, similar to vibrators, while uncut men feel rigid upon entering[/QUOTE]
I'm not a woman, so what do I know, but: that just sounds really weird.
Unless either (i) this girlfriend has a reasonable basis to compare (like, say she's had sex with at least 5 guys of each type) or (ii) a bunch of other women come on this thread and agree with her, my initial reaction is that she doesn't know what she's talking about.
I'm pretty sure you're supposed to be fairly rigid ... and that all guys are very unlikely to be anywhere near as rigid as a vibrator.
And (this may go without saying): it's kind of a jerkish thing to tell you. I mean, it's not like you're going to get it put back on.
Use some lube. Or get rid of the girl. Or both.
[QUOTE=Phamine;155253]My gf prefers uncut men as opposed to cut, which I am. She tells me that I hurt her with my penis even after she is wet. She says uncut men feel smooth, similar to vibrators, while uncut men feel rigid upon entering.
I've never had this situation before. What can I do or not do to make her feel comfortable with me? I am getting performance anxiety because of it :([/QUOTE]
It's not an insult or someting that should be taken personally. All of my girlfriends, most of wich had never been with an uncut guy before, have come to prefer an uncircumcised penis. The foreskin makes penetration smoother, simple as that. It does seem a bit odd that it actually hurts her, maybe shes just very sensitve, or you're not using enough lube. Talk to her about it and tell her how shes making you feel and see what she has to say.
Most of the vibrators I have seen are in the shape of circumcised penises. Seems to me that your GF has some issues and should see a doctor if this "pain" continues.
If sex is causing pain, a doctor should be called.
I've personally never been with a cut man, so I don't know what it's like and I have nothing to compare it to. But I love the fact that my guy is uncut. I would imagine it feels a bit smoother but again, I don't have a cut guy to compare it to.
She may also need extra lube. I am someone who can be dripping wet yet I still need extra lube so that it's not painful to me. So you could always try that and if it still hurts, go to the doctor.
I have been with a few of each (under 10 in total of both ok lol), anyway and I never really felt a difference between either... well of course the sex with a different person feels different, but I would attribute it to many other factors that aren't related to circumcision...
I have to agree with nursefluffykins... never really have sensed a difference at all!
Does seem, however, that she was pretty insensitive in how she told you... considering it's not like you can do anything about it and you've done nothing wrong.
- MM
I remember reading somewhere that, in the case of UN-cut, the foreskin slides behind the ridge of the tip/glans, thereby smoothing out what, with a cut guy, is a significant contour.
On that basis, I can understand why one might feel different to the other but am baffled as to why any should hurt.