alright basicallly im looking for possibly a little extra help here. me and my gf talk alot and recently the subject of orgasm has come up and i found out that she hasnt figured out how to yet. she said shes started to touch herself recently so i dont think she totally has figured much about herself out. i read some of the things around just generally and when she said this i just started to see what she was doing. so what ive found out so far is that shes tried to stimulate her clitoris and she said she can not feel anything more than what she normally feels when we fool around( wet and goes weak in the legs). then i asked her if she could feel her gspot and she said yes and she said when she touches it she has the sensation to pee and she gets really really wet so i thought if she just appplied more pressure and get through the sensation shed get it but she said to me shes put alot of pressure and tried but nothing seems to work.
i know there are posts floating around about how like 30% of women can not reach orgasm or just do not reach orgasm but i can tell shes getting upset about this and im wondering if theres anything out there that she can do between now and the next time i see her(which would be my first time going south). i appreciate any replies that could possibly help me.(if i missed anything feel free to ask)
thank you
[QUOTE=sera300;187300]Convince her to just relax and to enjoy! [/QUOTE]Exactly! She shouldn't focus on 'trying to have an orgasm', she should focus on enjoying herself and the orgasm will happen when it happens.
Your analysis is pretty much right on.
Here are some articles that the two of you should read:
The Anatomy of the Female "O", Answered by Brandye & Dancingdoc2 & Inspired by Godiva
For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?
If this is the exten of her experience, forget the G-Spot. It seems she is really not yet ready for serious sex. When she chooses to learn, she will. There is nothing you can, or should, do.
oops read below sorry
[QUOTE=Brandye;187159]If this is the exten of her experience, forget the G-Spot. It seems she is really not yet ready for serious sex. When she chooses to learn, she will. There is nothing you can, or should, do.[/QUOTE]
---If this is the exten of her experience, forget the G-Spot. It seems she is really not yet ready for serious sex.
my intentions were never sex
---When she chooses to learn, she will. There is nothing you can, or should, do.
in fact she just came out about doing it( i didnt find out until just a few days ago) and i figured i could apply some of my reading on here as she is upset about not feeling alot and im trying to help but i need a bit of help as im no expert im just taking my knowledge from stickies i didnt know if there was anythig else as she still hasnt felt anythin strong.
so, i have had no effect on her decision to do it
Please, the two of you should read the links I listed.
Also, the fact that she's getting upset and frustrated won't help the situation.. only make it harder.
Just like w/ anything... you usually are able to finally do something when you weren't really "trying" it just kind of happened.
Just focus on the pleasure at the moment and not the end result... trying too hard will just end up frustrating you both!
is it possible for her not to have an orgasm if she isnt on any meds or anything to cause the feeling to be surpressed? like in brandeyes thread about 30% of women do not orgasm is that they physically cant or is it they just never try or is it they physically cant(not including having lifetime meds that supress it)
[quote=370zx;187268]is it possible for her not to have an orgasm if she isnt on any meds or anything to cause the feeling to be surpressed? like in brandeyes thread about 30% of women do not orgasm is that they physically cant or is it they just never try or is it they physically cant(not including having lifetime meds that supress it)[/quote]
Yes, it is possible that she could be just one of the women who cannot. However, with that said; it's not an automatic response (to orgasm) it's a learned behavior. She has to be comfortable with herself and her body to be able to. I think the first time I was able to when I was about 17 or so (sexually active at 14). It was fine, no big deal, since sex is enjoyable even without one for women. It may just take her time and learning what works, as well as not stressing over it.
ok thanks sera ill tell her im trying to tell her not to get upset and its ok so ill jsut have to try harder
[quote=370zx;187298]ok thanks sera ill tell her im trying to tell her not to get upset and its ok so ill jsut have to try harder[/quote]
Convince her to just relax and to enjoy! You are welcome. :)