My gf has never had an orgasm with a guy before, and I'm finding it difficult and a bit frustrating trying to give her one. Any tips? We've talked about it, and she says she wants to but is afraid it won't happen because none of her previous sexual partners have even tried. She can do it on her own, and I tried getting her to show me how she does it to copy that but she uses her palm on her clit, and since my hand is a fair bit bigger its more awkward and a lot easier for me to just use my fingers.
Admitedly, I only really started focusing on her clit a few days ago, I usually just go for the g-spot since thats what shes wanted. She has never orgasmed through that though, even on her own.
I've spent a fair bit of time on foreplay, and given her pretty intense clit stimulation with my fingers which has got her moaning and twitching uncontrollably a couple of times, but no orgasm.. We have sex about 2-5 times a day except when I'm tired or don't feel like it and need a break.
What else can I try?
Just give it time, keep going, and don't put too much pressure on yourself or her to reach orgasm. She can cum on her own, so she will reach orgasm with you at some point, but if you guys focus too much on "orgasm" rather than "pleasure" it will be harder to come by.
Also, have you guys tried mutual masturbation? That could be a hot, fun way to reach orgasm together, and she can be in control of her own pleasure. Another idea is to rub or touch her clit while you're having sex. The only position I can orgasm through sex alone is doggy style, because he hits my G spot at this angle, but even then it's even better if he reaches around and gives me a rub. I'd REALLY recommend trying that one!
Good luck!
Relax both of you, this is not the Olympics. She might just be nervous and, just like some other sexual problems, her nervousness makes it impossible for her to orgasm and she gets even more nervous and round and round we go in a death spiral. RELAX.
Begin with a slow body worship, moving onto manual then oral sex, then cunnilingus with g-spot stimulation and then finally intercourse. That should have her orgasming if you are slow, remorseless, and unrelenting. Overwhelm her until she can do nothing except orgasm!
girls that are really horny have orgasms easier. get her horny like she has never been before then spend a good 2 hours of foreplay/sex. like eat her out/ finger her to start things off then penetrate then come back to foreplay then penetrate. that way you take breaks so you last longer and she'll never spot receiving pleasure. that should do it.