so me and my girlfriend just had some reaaaalllly intense hard sex. and when she stood up, she felt extremely nauseous and almost threw up. the intensity of the nausea just went down a little bit but she is curled up in a ball. any insight is as always greatly appreciated!
Mon, 05/24/2010 - 03:49
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GF nauseous after intense sex?
Please define "intense sex" and describe what all was involved.
Is she "still curled up in a ball?"
by intense sex i mean i was pounding away for over an hour with no stopping or breaks or slowing down. I just kept pounding away at her vagina. we did cowgirl, deck chair, missionary, drill, and last but not least asian cowgirl. she didnt feel nauseous until right after we finished. and here it is 10 hours later and she is still feeling nauseous after she had a full nights sleep.
> by intense sex i mean i was pounding away for over an hour with no stopping or breaks or slowing down. I just kept pounding away at her vagina.
Your description sounds like the results of abusive behavior--a physical and sexual assault to me!
This may not have been your intent, yet it certainly seems like you (unknowingly) crossed the line of care and concern with your exuberance and excitement. You can search the Index as well as the forums and find several discussions about the recommended length of time intercourse should last. Try no more than ten (10) minutes before taking a break if it is desired to continue and prolong this activity.
Many women report back that if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes that they become SORE, bored, and tired {read: exhausted?). (At any time during the hour did you check her level of arousal and the moisture content of her vagina in order to make sure she did not dry up and/or require more lubrication?)**
There is a trend nowadays in which many boys/young men new to making love or having sex operate under misguided misconception that the way to trigger an orgasm is thru lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking and thrusting. WRONG! The way to an enjoyable climax is from lots of fooling around and making out during the preliminary stages before ever getting to foreplay and ultimately intercourse. If this is the case, you have definitely placed the proverbial cart before the horse. (Have you ever heard the expression: "Give 'it' a rest, Dude." (Literally and figuratively?))
Whether you are in fact a loving caring boyfriend who happened to get carried away and lost in the pleasurable sensations, or, were spending the time working up your level of arousal to the brink of an orgasm, or, trying in vain to get her to climax, you went about it in all the wrong ways. You need to apologize to your partner and let her know in no uncertain terms that your actions were wrong and that you get how you hurt her; then, what to do and how to go about things in the future in order for both of you to have an enjoyable experience. **I know two women and know of two more who in that situation would have found your bouncing balls and latched on with more than a firm grasp! shortly after that ten minute period of time.
I recommend that the two of you read all of the articles listed in the Index and then have discussions concerning what you have learned from each. Knowledge is empowering. You will do this if you wish to become a caring, considerate, compassionate, skilled, lover.
In the future, when the two of you desire to prolong your love making activities, do so by taking frequent breaks, returning to kissing and caressing all over, before continuing. Build up your level of arousal and excitement and maintain it from all the Necking and Petting you do, as well as any Foreplay; first, second, and, third. Next, if one or both of you desire(s) to enjoy multiple orgasms, learn how to go about doing so, properly. Learn about refractory periods and how they are different for men and women, and, how long the "down time" is for each of you. (There is at least one article on this listed in the Index, also.)
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;255147]> by intense sex i mean i was pounding away for over an hour with no stopping or breaks or slowing down. I just kept pounding away at her vagina.
Your description sounds like the results of abusive behavior--a physical and sexual assault to me!
This may not have been your intent, yet it certainly seems like you (unknowingly) crossed the line of care and concern with your exuberance and excitement. You can search the Index as well as the forums and find several discussions about the recommended length of time intercourse should last. Try no more than ten (10) minutes before taking a break if it is desired to continue and prolong this activity.
Many women report back that if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes that they become SORE, bored, and tired {read: exhausted?). (At any time during the hour did you check her level of arousal and the moisture content of her vagina in order to make sure she did not dry up and/or require more lubrication?)
There is a trend nowadays in which many boys/young men new to making love or having sex operate under misguided misconception that the way to trigger an orgasm is thru lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking and thrusting. WRONG! The way to an enjoyable climax is from lots of fooling around and making out during the preliminary stages before ever getting to foreplay and ultimately intercourse. If this is the case, you have definitely placed the proverbial cart before the horse.
Whether you are in fact a loving caring boyfriend who happened to get carried away and lost in the sensations, or, were spending the time working up your level of arousal to the brink of an orgasm, you went about it in all the wrong ways. You need to apologize to your partner and let her know in no uncertain terms that your actions were wrong and that you get how you hurt her.
I recommend that the two of you read all of the articles listed in the Index and then have discussions concerning what you have learned from each. Knowledge is empowering. You will do this if you wish to become a caring, considerate, compassionate, skilled, lover.
In the future, when the two of you desire to prolong your love making activities, do so by taking frequent breaks, returning to kissing and caressing all over, before continuing. Build up your level of arousal and excitement and to maintain it from all the Necking and Petting you do, as well as any Foreplay; first, second, and, third. Next, if one or both of you desire(s) to enjoy multiple orgasms, learn how to go about doing so, correctly. Learn about refractory periods and how they are different for men and women, and, how long the "down time" is for each of you. (There is at least one article on this listed in the Index, also.)
I hope this is of help. Got questions?[/QUOTE]
This is the poster's girlfriend and I want to make is absolutely clear that there was in no way, shape, or form, any sort of abuse happening here. He is the most caring, gentle, and compassionate person I have ever been with. He would never do anything to hurt me, and is always very conscientious of my feelings and need in, and out of the bedroom.
That being said, the duration of intercourse was no issue to me. Yes, I was a little dry and could have used some lube, but that happens almost every time we have sex and he has always been accommodating when it comes to that. He wasn't hurting me, and quiet frankly I loved every second of it. So please, do not assume that He was fulfilling his own needs without any care of my own. That is just simply not the case.
I don't know why I am feeling so sick, perhaps it isn't related to the sex at all and I ate something bad that day. I cannot say for sure. We were just looking for some advice here, and not accusations of abuse and selfishness. Honestly I am offended and I think you should get more facts before you start pointing fingers and saying hurtful things in the direction of someone who CLEARLY does not deserve it.
And by the way, since when has passionate, intense love making been called abuse?