I hate to say it but...I told you so, I mentioned in your other threat not to get attached as much as possible, because she's unstable...:(

Logics aside:

I feel your pain, several people have cheated on me and it leaves you feeling worthless and unattractive. All you can do is put your chin up high and think how the next person will truly see your worth and will treat you with the dignity and caring you need. *hugs*

^ telling him, "I told you so." How does that help?

On topic, Ducy, and you too Curious Woman, it sounds like both of you need to need to do some real soul searching and figure out exactly what it is that attracts you to the type of people who cheat. If you're going to allow yourselves to care about a person to the extent that it hurts you to find they are seeing other people, then it would be prudent to find out if that person is worth caring about before hand. Good luck to you both.

F*ck her, buddy.

From your posting history, it sounds like you're a good guy, and you were trying to be a good boyfriend.

That's all you can do. Good luck next time.

Once more unto the breach, dear friends, once more.

Ducy:

Realize HER actions have no bearing on you as a person. No quitting, just use caution before getting in to deep. She has her own issues; you have your life; get the thyroid fixed and get out there!

Let your insecurity go.

Ducy - you two have seemingly broken up and gotten back together so many times this week alone that I have no idea what's going on anymore. When exactly did she cheat on you?

And no, you DON'T hate sex - you hate the drama that comes with exclusive, serious relationships. It's easily solved - just take a step back and SLOW DOWN. You're still a teenager, you have your whole life ahead of you to settle down. You don't have to have a girlfriend. Go out, meet and spend time with lots of girls, you can enjoy their company and companionship without worrying about where things are going or whether they sleep with others, just have FUN. You remember fun, don't you? The special ones will come along and when that happens, you'll know it...

[QUOTE=cjb1981;199406]If you're going to allow yourselves to care about a person to the extent that it hurts you to find they are seeing other people, then it would be prudent to find out if that person is worth caring about before hand.[/QUOTE]

Couldn't have said it better myself, cjb...

Don't ask questions you may not want the true answer to...

[QUOTE=cjb1981;199406]^ telling him, "I told you so." How does that help?

On topic, Ducy, and you too Curious Woman, it sounds like both of you need to need to do some real soul searching and figure out exactly what it is that attracts you to the type of people who cheat. If you're going to allow yourselves to care about a person to the extent that it hurts you to find they are seeing other people, then it would be prudent to find out if that person is worth caring about before hand. Good luck to you both.[/QUOTE]

IF you had bothered to read the rest of the post, it was sentimental and heartfelt, because I understand what he is going through. I just decided to be the "bad guy" and say what was on everyone else's mind, we all told Ducy to watch it being/not being/whatever their relationship was with her. And, wow I haven't been cheated on in several years, that was back when I dated little boys in high school who didn't know what they wanted...well some of them did, they wanted to get their rocks off and didn't care who from. I am engaged to a wonderful man, whom I have been together with for nearly 2 years and he has never come close to cheating on me, nor have I ever suspected him and in the past my institution has never failed me in that regard. Excuse me if I seem pissy I just don't appreciate being told that I need to figure out why I care for people. :mad:

[QUOTE=curious_woman;199440]nor have I ever suspected him and in the past my institution has never failed me in that regard.[/QUOTE]

You're in an institution? Well that explains a lot...

Sorry, had to tease you about that. It was a funny typo... I take it you meant intuition.

[quote=Ducy;199434]Oh yea I now...but I had to, I mean when I got a call from my friend saying hey whats up with your gf? She has been getting pretty friendly with this girl in photo, and she never talks about you. I mean hey, either way I was having a bad week, what with the doctors and all, so I figured whatever couldnt get any worse.[/quote]You are not having a bad week...you are having a good week. You have your medical answers. And you found out that she was not for you; at least you did not marry her then have this happen...been there babes! :)

[quote=Ducy;199453]Well they arent 100% sure its thyroid. I guess there were some problems with the blood tests so I have to go again on friday...Which means I have to wait even longer.

Plus my friend bought me a lesbian video for my birthday...and I dont have the heart to tell him to take it back...Just the thought of girl on girl is kinda...depressing[/quote]
Just wait it out and be a nice person! Life goes on; trust me.

^ I read your entire post, how else would I have known that you too were cheated on repeatedly? Also, simply because your post was was sentimental and heartfelt, does that somehow give you a reason to pour salt in the wound with an "I told you so"? It's great that you are engaged to a wonderful man, whom you have been with for the past 2 years. However, several people have cheated on you, so apparently your selection process wasn't what it should have been in the past. No reason to get "pissy" at me for pointing that out. Good luck to you curious_woman.

why don't we make this the "it's all about me ducy" forum? ;)

As it has been said; "It's better to be pissed off then pissed on" LOL! Ducy is getting a dose of life; thats all...a lot for his age.

[QUOTE=oedipussy;199450]You're in an institution? Well that explains a lot...

Sorry, had to tease you about that. It was a funny typo... I take it you meant intuition.[/QUOTE]

HAHAHAHA oops :D <3 thanks oedi that made me laugh. Yes I did mean intuition, I spelt it wrong the first time and I have a spell-check addon. It auto corrected to institution :rolleyes:.

cjb: I was young, and not sure of myself yet. Everyone makes bad decisions, it doesn't make them bad people or stupid as long as they learn from their mistakes, which I did. Ducy wasn't bothered about it, and I don't know about him but I'd rather be told straight than be babied. I admit I overreacted a bit, over tired and have the flu in a bad way.

HnG: YEAH why don't we blame him for ALL our problems! haha :p

Ducy: We have talked in PM's before, you knew I was just telling it straight and not flaming you (I hope lol). I can probably understand better than anyone your problems, because I am around your age and going through similar things. Like sera said, we're both "getting a dose of life".

*hugs Ducy* :D

You never can tell which will be the girl to cheat on you.

You constantly worry about the party girl, but nothing bad ever comes up. Then you go out with the quiet nice Christian girl, and she ends up being the one who cheats.

Does seeing your ex with another girl make you feel that you did such a bad job 'as a man' that you drove her to the other side?

[quote=Ducy;199644]IDK...i mean its kinda like I feel the center of all the jokes now...cuz me and my friends used to say...the only thing worse than getting dumped for a guy...is for a girl...and thats exactly what happened...So far, both the party girl and the catholic girl have cheated on me...so yea lol...god looking back on this, as crappy it is, I guess its pretty damn funny...[/quote]So stop getting exclusive with individuals. You never know when your husband may go out an have a fling...point is; get over it fast. You will adjust! LOL!

Ducy, stop being exclusive...period. Date, in a rather relaxed sort of way, all the girls you can talk into it. See Tiffany on Tuesday for a movie, Samantha on Friday to hang out, and perhaps Melissa on Satruday to hear a local band.
Your focus should be upon your schooling, your health, your future - with your adventures with girls as a bit of educational fun. Do not get "serious" until you truly have a firm and clear idea of who you want and you have built a life for yourself on your own.

There. Now was that so very bad? *EG*

and if you aren't married it is not "cheating".