How easy it for you to do this? Two nights ago I saw a movie with more girl which put me to sleep...literally. After it was done we went back to my house to fool around and I couldn't get it up to save my life. We ended up just lying together.
Last night, we spent the day with her family partaking in Easter festivities and snuck off at dinner time to fool around. I wasn't as tired then, even though we were loafing around watching another boring movie in the hours leading up to us going off. I thought it was going to be another bout of limpness, but I sorta willed myself up, getting really into the foreplay, being more aggressive, even while she seemed like she was preparing herself to be dissapointed. Anyway, we did the deed but it was a close call.
Both nights I wasn't "in the mood", but I think I struggle to understand when I'm actually in the mood. I subscribe to the theory that anytime is the right time, but my penis doesn't seem to cosign this. Is there a trick to get "in the mood"?
AsianKid
I would say a general practioner or urologist. They are the closest thing as a gynocologist for men, lol.
Are you in still in college? I go to the health clinic at my school for most things.
And as I've learned, you really have to get over the embarrassment. First time I went for my female exam I was a nervous wreck. Would she think I looked funny..down there, Im not as thin as I'd like to be, my boobs aren't as nice as I'd like them to be. I went again for my second time recently and it wasn't nearly as bad. You just have to say to yourself, F*ck it!
you know the DRs see people more bad off than youself, lol, that's what makes me not care....plus... they see all types and its their profession, they aren't gonna care. They could probably care less.
Get it checked out so you aren't worried anymore.
[QUOTE=Quote (Jaybee @ Mar. 29 2005,10:59)]I would bite the bullet now and see your Doc.
It might well be something simple that can be put right with a pill...I don't know.
Go see him, get a diagnosis. If there's anything physically wrong, that can be addressed quickly.
If it's not physical, that is a tad more complex; I'm guessing it IS physical, but like I said, just get over there, and put the matter to bed (no pun intended)
Jaybee[/QUOTE]
I didn't like this, but she explained that we've done it so much that it'd be kind of nice to go without it for awhile. I don't know how to read that or whether or not I should take it at face value, but it does motivate me to get this fixed.
Hmmm...this afternoon we tried again, and again it wouldn't get up. I told her that maybe we should take off until the weekend so I could try to research this and figure out what the problem is, and she agreed, even suggesting we extend the period of time of not having sex.
I don't have a regular doctor, and damn this seems so embarassing (plus I'm not exactly Tommy Lee or anything) but my main concern is keeping my girlfriend happy. If I don't have a regular doctor, how would I go about getting an appointment for this, or do I need to get one? Are there specialist that deal with penile dysfunction?
Thanks for your input so far Jaybee.
AsianKid
I would bite the bullet now and see your Doc.
It might well be something simple that can be put right with a pill...I don't know.
Go see him, get a diagnosis. If there's anything physically wrong, that can be addressed quickly.
If it's not physical, that is a tad more complex; I'm guessing it IS physical, but like I said, just get over there, and put the matter to bed (no pun intended)
Jaybee
[QUOTE=Quote (Jaybee @ Mar. 28 2005,14:13)]Hi AK,
Do you masturbate often? Try not to for a couple of days before you see her.
I'm a tad concerned about the lack of libido at your time of life, to be honest; when I was your age, I couldn't get it DOWN!
What about asking her to give you some oral to get you going?
Hope it helps,
Jaybee.[/QUOTE]
Hey Jaybee,
I don't masturbate often since she and I have been having sex. If my I recall correctly, only 3 times since we started, which was 3 months ago.
It gets up randomly to be honest. Sometimes we'll be in the car and she'll be touching me and be like "whoa, what happened?" Same with laying around at her parents house. I don't know, it seems like when it's showtime, performance anxiety hits or something.
She has given me oral before to try to get me up. My erections just don't stay hard for some reason or other. I think I have reason to be worried at this point...
AsianKid
Hi AK,
Do you masturbate often? Try not to for a couple of days before you see her.
I'm a tad concerned about the lack of libido at your time of life, to be honest; when I was your age, I couldn't get it DOWN!
What about asking her to give you some oral to get you going?
Hope it helps,
Jaybee.
I worked at a hospital for 3 years while I was in college. To maybe put everyone a little more at ease with this... medical people don't really think about your body in a "Hey! Look at this!" sense. You might think that looking at naked people all the time would be exciting. It isn't. In a medical setting, it's just another body. So don't worry about being uncomfortable.