Being wet should be a good thing, it means you're horny :P. And if he really dumped you for being bad at sex without talking to you about it, then I think it was for the best.

Listen. Your ex was probably saying that stuff because he knew it would get back to you (he must have known it was a friend of yours) and then he just said one of the more hurtful things a person can hear.

But his low is not yours.

That said I will still give you advise, because of course you might want to change things and are now giving it (too much) attention and focus.

Some people just don't move around during sex. I've heard of a couple of them from my friends, I myself have never been with such a person and I think it's mostly hurtful gossip from whining people who perhaps couldn't deal with the REAL reason for the break up.
Supposedly these people just lay there like a corpse, recieving but never doing anything back.
But how anybody can just lay still during sex, unless it's because they have major issues and need help I can't grasp.
So if you indeed had just laid there my next question would be to your ex: WHY THE ½§))#"?[insert foul language](#¤#""¤ DID YOU THEN HAVE INTERCOURSE WITH HER? Why didn't he stop and talk to you, selfish man. It should be obvious if there were any problems.

You will know for yourself weather you did move around or not. -If it is just lies, then you should categorize the next part as lies also.

Normally, wet girls are hot because it means that they are turned on. However if a girl gets too wet there can be a loss of friction when the man goes in and out, and for some guys this is not the best ever (we could then have a chat about small penises and their owners' tendency to feel this way - but we would go down on his idiotic level; he'll just beat us with experience. :rolleyes: )

If this problem occur, however, it can be fixed in 2 seconds: Just take some toilet paper or a towel and whipe the extra moist away.
So if that was his problem he must be a lazy, lazy man... *mumbles about small penises again* :cool:

Listen I'm not just saying all this to cheer you up.
I have heard of many cases where the ex was supposedly chatting normally with a friend of someone, and then he or she made up weird shizzle about the person so they would get humiliated - or to spread evil rumors.

Talk to your friends about you ex's tendency to do this, so they'll know it in the future if he tries again and maybe even say "I know you are lying, so why don't you just give it up?"

YOU know in your heart wheather those things are true or not - and no matter what he just picked the stuff he'd knew you'd feel sensitive about and that really says more about him than you.

Hugs&kisses.

Seriously, don't let him damage your self esteem and thoughts about yourself. I am pretty sure he said that in order to hurt you, maybe because he had complexes about HIS OWN BEHAVIOUR in bed. So instead of adminting that to himself and others he just did the most hurtful and really stupid thing by spreading such gossips about you.
I've also never been with a person who just lie there with no movements at all. Did he want you to be more pro-active, maybe be on top, do more work? Then why didn't he say that to you???? Such things are all easily solved, been there, done that. If yo ureally lie there like in koma, then why didn't he try to make you relax and be natural?
As for being too wet, that is nearly impossible. All the guys I know and have talked about and all of my bfs I ever had were only getting turned on by this. It means a girl is aroused, it means she is hot. This is the most illogic complaint ever.
Calm down and write him an e-mail, telling that you'd be happy if he didn't talk behind your back, especially about things that are not true.

There is such a thing as too wet and not reciprocating during sex HOWEVER, no man who has any right to call himself a man would EVER say anything of the sort about any lady generous enough to have bedded him even once! So clearly he is UNWORTHY. Pay him no attention whatsoever - just act as if he never existed at all period. No emails, no gossip, NOTHING. The idiot is dead.

I am sure that you are not just laying there. I am also sure that you're not too wet. What I do know is that BOTH you and he were UNSKILLED and more than likely SHY. Well you most likely were - he sounds like an uncouth bastard who isn't as good in bed as he thinks he is.

I warm bath before sex seems to decrease the amount of fluid produced. If you are going to speak w/your partner about her lack of activity there are ways to do it with tact.

I am having similar issues with my partner. She gets so wet that we have to do it on a towel, because her lubrication comes out. It kills the friction, that much is true. I am going to talk to her about using her hands and moving, because even though I am quite generous and gentle with mine, she seems to have the statue thing going on, which isn't very satisfying to me. I don't like feeling like I'm raping somebody, or having sex with a dead body, I don't care how uncouth and pretentious some of you think I am :p

[QUOTE=sera300;179446] If you are going to speak w/your partner about her lack of activity there are ways to do it with tact.[/QUOTE]

You have my attention; suggestions?

let me tell you something: I am a guy, and I LOVE wetness. There is no such thing as too wet (IMO), but different people have different preferences. So...take it as his loss and not yours. Someone will come along who does love everything about you (both outside of the bedroom and in it as well).

[quote=Uncle Ben;179452]You have my attention; suggestions?[/quote]

Wait until you are just talking & nothing sexual is happening. Ask her if she enjoys making love, ask her if she is deriving pleasure. When she asks why, tell her you notice she is quite still and quite during sex. Ask her then if she feels inhibited or uncomfortable letting go.

Often women are still and quite since we are afraid our partners will think we are freaks. Perhaps she feels there is something wrong with just letting go and having a good time with you fully expressing herself. If a woman feels comfortable, knows it's okay, they will let the wild one out.

She may be VERY inhibited in bed. If she in new to the bedroom forum, she may honestly not know how to react.

[QUOTE=sera300;179458]Wait until you are just talking & nothing sexual is happening. Ask her if she enjoys making love, ask her if she is deriving pleasure. When she asks why, tell her you notice she is quite still and quite during sex. Ask her then if she feels inhibited or uncomfortable letting go.

Often women are still and quite since we are afraid our partners will think we are freaks. Perhaps she feels there is something wrong with just letting go and having a good time with you fully expressing herself. If a woman feels comfortable, knows it's okay, they will let the wild one out.

She may be VERY inhibited in bed. If she in new to the bedroom forum, she may honestly not know how to react.[/QUOTE]

I will try that. It might be that we're not sexually compatible or something; she has more experience than I, and my nature is a shy, reserved one, so I should be the one with this problem if anybody. One other problem is her complete lack of vocalization; it doesn't matter if I'm fingering, going down on, or penetrating her, the most I can get is a very short period of heavy breathing, nothing more. I have brought this up, and I told her that I have absolutely no idea what pleasures her the most if she does nothing at all to let me know what she likes the best :confused: It is aggravating to say the least.

I had a friend who's girl just didn't make noise and he asked her to. In the end she ended up faking what he wanted to hear and it was weird and awkward. Learn to listen to her breathing, just like you'd listen to her voice. Does she make a certain face when she is enjoying herself? Listen to how she breathes when she makes that face. Get to KNOW your partner, not CHANGE your partner. If she's not for you she's not for you.
But I come from a background where most of my friends married when they were both virgins. And the ones with satisfying sex lives were the ones where the guy would come in from the next room and without a word fetch their fiance's sweater because he knew she was cold. Or She would walk into the kitchen and return with a drink for him that was exactly what he wanted without asking him. The ones with bad sex lives were the ones that didn't seem to anticipate each other's needs outside the bedroom, and I guess never learned to do so in the bedroom either. (Even the "good Christian girls" talk about their sex lives when there are no boys around.)
I believe that sexual compatability depends on the rest of the relationship. I have never met a couple that says "We are best friends, and we love each other, and we are a perfect match, but our sex life sucks." The again I've met a lot that say "Our relationship sucks but the sex is great." So I don't know what that does to my theory.

If she is not very into vocalizing the senses naturally, that will not be much pleasure and will always feel fake for her even if she does. Ask her to show what feels best in other ways: holding you and squeezing more or something similar. If she is really just shy, tell her how every word or sigh she makes turn you on, that should ring bells for her.

[QUOTE=Brittany Hypnotic;178965]Okay my ex boyfriend was talking to one of my friends and said that the reason we broke up was because I sucked at sex.

He said I didn't "move" and I have no idea what that means.

He also said that I got to wet... how do I prevent that?[/QUOTE]

he sounds like an SOb to me, you cannot get to wet.

RickDC

I also have that problem-about getting too wet. My partner hasn't said anything, but I do get embarrassed by it. I won't let him go down on me because of it. Do guys find that gross - going down there when it's really, really wet??

As the husband of a woman with the capacity to self lubricate beyond
what is typical, I find it to be a huge turn on. To me it simply means
she is extremely turned on, for which I am grateful. It also makes my
ability to determine her level of arousal much easier.

Yes, it does reduce the friction, but all that means it it takes a few minutes longer, and hardly a problem.

No, it does not stop me from performing orally on her. In fact, it adds to the excitement. Occasionally, I will accumate a small puddle of on my tongue
and then slide up and french kiss her. It's a real turn on for us both.

My advice... stop worrying. Being too wet is a blessing.

[QUOTE=bonniegirl;180008]Do guys find that gross - going down there when it's really, really wet??[/QUOTE]

Absolutely not. I love it. Nothing feels better for me than knowing my girlfriend is turned on and wants me down there. The wetter and sloppier the better. I don't know what makes me happier, the wetness down there when going at it/giving oral or after we have sex and she constantly says, "ugh, I feel nasty because I'm so sticky and wet down there."

I think when a girl is wet its one of the craziest turn ons ever. I dunno what his problem is :P

your boyfriend was a stupid looser and your best rid of him, he goes and tells your friend about why you broke up ? aren't you the first person he is supposed to discuss that with ?