interesting concept doc.. for me (being the man of the relationship) i was wearing the pants and acted first, but i am also interested in hearing about the reverse and what other people have experienced.

Well... it happened to me once.
We were out on a walk together, and we kissed once before starting, trying to ignore the people around us. Pretty normal. We kept going, walking around in the park, until we got to a nice secluded area where no one was in sight. There we got a little more open and started making out. She got really turned on after about an hour, and led me back to her car. There she straddled me and went for the goods in a very roundabout, achingly good way.

Never had it happen sense.

My ex girlfriend and I were sitting on my bed watching tv and chatting when she ripped off my pants and undressed and starrted going wild.

My reaction: "Wtf...mmmmmmmmmmmmm"

Lol I cant complain

haha that was me

and ill let you know when she does get in my pants

It happened to me once. Her mom was having computer troubles so I fixed those problems up. This girl had a major geek fetish and she jumped me as soon as we got near a bed. No complaints here! :D

She basically pushed me down and started pulling off my clothes, kissing me, and groping for the goods. She was caressing my penis directly but with no real 'plan of attack.'

After a I clarified why she jumped me, I took control and kindly reciprocated.

[QUOTE]It happened to me once. Her mom was having computer troubles so I fixed those problems up. This girl had a major geek fetish and she jumped me as soon as we got near a bed. No complaints here![/QUOTE]

i can also comment on this, lol.. as yes my gf also likes the nerds (me being a nerd obviously.. aka pc genius) and yes they do get into that 'mood' sometimes... is a great feeling, lol.

I feel as though Im always making the move on my Boyfriend. I feel like if I never initiate it, it wont happen. Now, I need advice from a man as to way this may be, and what I can do to change it.

Any comments are welcome.

[QUOTE=Buffy_Lynn]I feel as though Im always making the move on my Boyfriend. I feel like if I never initiate it, it wont happen. Now, I need advice from a man as to way this may be, and what I can do to change it.

Any comments are welcome.[/QUOTE]

how long have you two been dating? he might be a bit nervous, shy or a bit of both.. even if you have been dating for several years he still might not have reached that comfort yet.

Quite plainly find out how much he masturbates. if he masturbates alot and before you two meet he wont be really inclined to try and do things as he would n feel like doing it if you get what i mean..

You could try getting him to stop masturbating and you stop masturbating and do it for each other (u masturbate him when he needs, vice versa for you) i know this has worked for me in the past and occasionally today as you are fully minded on the job and just really want to get it out(me being a male) so you are more inclined to make the first move as you have waited the time.

[QUOTE=Vper]how long have you two been dating? he might be a bit nervous, shy or a bit of both.. even if you have been dating for several years he still might not have reached that comfort yet.[/QUOTE]
A lot of us are taught as boys that women don't want it and will be offended if you approach them sexually, so we don't come onto them and wait for them to make the move on us. This viewpoint is especially indoctrinated through fundamental christianity.

To this day I still struggle with these sort of ideals and often feel very guilty after approaching a woman, as my parents were quite the christian conservatives when I was a boy. They have since changed dramatically, but those underlying beliefs and assumptions are incredibly hard to change.

Honesty I think you should just sit down with him and discuss like you feel you are doing too much of the work and make it clear in no uncertain terms that you want him to come onto you! Give specific examples of places where it could be done and specifically how (physically) he could do it. And when he actually does it, make sure you give lots of positive feedback!! Just please don't assume that if he doesn't make moves on you because he doesn't find you attractive or is occupied by pleasuring himself.

If you try to control his masturbation, he will without a doubt resent you for that. Trying to control him will push in farther away.

We've been dating almost 2 years, and since the beginning I almost always started love making.

I spoke to him about it, and he really had no idea how I felt. I told him I would love it if he were to just take control for one night, and things have sure changed!

And on the subject of masturbation, I encourage him too. It's important, I think, and love when he lets me watch him do so. He loves watching while I pleasure myself too. Though we dont always masturbate together or in front of each other.

Thanks for the advice. Sometimes I get confused about men. Just as men are often confused about women.

i have the SAME exact problem with my bf, we've been together for 10 months and we lost our virginity to eachother
lately i'm always trying to kiss him and start a makeout sesh and i grap his penis all the time and flash him and such and i'm always whining for him to **** me and alot of times he'll try and talk me out of it, usually he'll just try and get me to rub his back or give him a blow job

oh, don't even get me started on me asking for oral i have to ask for like 30 minutes and give him more and more for 10 minutes no joke, and usually it never happens

he says he's either not in the mood or he wants to be careful about me not getting me pregnant even though we're super safe and we haven't for a week