I'm having trouble getting my girlfriend interested in sex or anything else sexual, at least when it comes to me. She likes getting off and I go down on her probably twice a day on average but I never get off she just lies there or goes to sleep.
So I'm asking for help, how do get her interested in me?
Um Maybe she's just not that into you?!?
Or maybe just using you??
Sounds harsh I know, but you don't really give us much else to go on....
Like how is the rest of the relationship going?
Is the sex thing the only glitch?
So stop doing anything for her sexually and let her initiate...also ask her point blank what is happening here. Does she think other men would tolerate her behavior? I dont think so, so why would you?
She's all 'take' and no 'give', huh? So why are you still with her???
Move on, buddy and tell her why.
It is time she got over being so greedy and self-centered.
She is willing to get me off but I don't get much out of the way we do it. Basically she lies there and I rub on her till I cum. Our relationship is fine, we talked about it he other night and she said I was going about it all wrong and that it was my job to get her interested.
It is your job to get her interested???????
How much more selfish does she have to be to convince you she's "unsuitable"?
Drop her!!
You definitely need to talk to her about this. She obviously has some misconceptions about sex, to put it mildly. I don't know if she has much experience; sounds like those are the words of someone who doesn't. But either wat, that's not what sex is about, obviously. Tell her you want to feel her respond to you, that sex is about give and take, and that it's definitely not your "job" to get her interested. That you'd be happy to satisfy her if she tells you what she needs, but that sex is about both of you, and you'd like to start feeling that. If it is indeed a matter of inexperience or something of the sort, talking about it should work--and maybe you could show her how wonderful of a feeling it is to satisfy someone else. If that's just her fixed view about sex, well, then, it's quite a twisted view, and you needn't take the brunt of it. That's quite an awful thing to say, that's it's your job.
"You're going about it all wrong". Well then SHOW HIM how you want it done - DUH!
Jeez, guy - please drop the girl already!
try to talk to her about it and let her know where you stand
He tried that already, neeta.
Well if he says the relationship otherwise is good then I think its worth a shot to try and fix it rather then just dumping her on the spot dont ya think?
Wow. I know that I do not posess the average sex drive, but please! "You have to get me interested" sounds like a load of BS from a selfish wench. It's the job of each individual in a relationship to see to their own satisfaction with the assistance of their partner.
It is never your responsability to make someone else happy if they are just going to lie there.
Moreover, just lying there like a dead worm! What is there to work out? She "let's" him get off by rubbing against her; meanwhile, she does nothining to engage in the activity. She expects oral but does not give it in return. Nothing to work out b/c if someone is that selfish in bed I would be certain she is the same out of bed in the relationship.
What you are willing to put up with is exactly what you will get.
deer - oh no. Sass and sera, as you have seen, agree. Selfishness is what drives this woman and it is obvious that she doesn't gve a damn about him. Why should he stay with her in this case?
suprise her that works on me!!!