First things first, my girlfriend wants to give me a blowjob.
However, the idea of me cumming in her mouth really turns her off. So we decided to go to the pharmacy and try some of those durex flavored condoms. She didn't like them.
Would it be easier to get regular non-lubricated condoms, and then get some flavored lubrication?
And if she doesnt like that? What else could I do so that she would try it?
On a side note, I am her first everything, except for kiss.
OK so your contention is, it's a measure of her respect for him, and of his self-respect, for him to demand she give him a BJ and for her to comply.
It's not a measure of his respect for her, or of her self-respect, that she stand up for her right to refuse if she's not into it? Or to work her way into it IF SHE CHOOSES TO IN THE END?
Turn this around--what about your self-respecting right to refuse to go down on a woman, or to do ANYTHING for a woman for that matter, if you so choose?
I saw in another of your posts that you're on a respect kick right now, and that's fine. Just remember that men don't have a monopoly on the right to be treated with respect.
And I mean that with all due respect ;)
Int1103, I still stand by my assessment.
I like the O My flavored lubes from the sinclair institute, but I still never take oral sex to completion. The flavored lube enhances the experience for me, making it more tolerable. As other posters have suggested, BJ's don't have to end with you ejaculating into her mouth and you'd be wise to accept her boundaries as they are. Maybe once she gets more accustomed she may surprise you someday, but don't count on it because she may not. Ejaculate in the mouth is a personal decision and she deserves to respected, whether you agree or not.
Tongue-in-cheek or not, I think you're jumping to a conclusion WSO. We have no idea how long they've been together, what all they've done together, etc. All we know is she's hesitating about a given act with a guy who has been her first time for everything she's done.
Who among us wasn't hesitant our first time with many of these things? God knows the first time I gave a BJ was several times after the guy in question asked for it. He even tried to push me down there by the shoulders a few times and I refused. Had zero to do with how much I respected him, and everything to do with my own self-consciousness about giving one for the first time ever. I had no clue what to do with it, and unfortunately his idea of education was to show me an internet video clip despite the fact I told him several times that seeing such a clip doesn't even remotely appeal to me.
Now, in the interest of full disclosure, I have ZERO respect for him whatsoever NOW, ever since the breakup. But that was not the case then, and it never did and still doesn't have anything to do with that or any other BJ.
A BJ doesn't have to end up in her mouth.. oral can be used as just tease/foreplay... or when she's doing it.. give her a heads up when you are about to cum and she can finish you off w/ her hand.
If this is the decided way.... PLEASE don't slip up and tell her too late :( this is no fun especially when you are NOT expecting it! lol
If so.. she might never go down there again!
It does take some getting used to.. and after a few times like this.. she might be more open to waiting a little longer before you cum.
Unlubricated poly condoms are about as flavor free as possible. Using condoms for blowjobs is good training and most prostitutes require condoms for this most commonly asked for service. You say she "wants" to. Are you sure?
I usually pull off once T starts to cum. Half the time, getting it all out takes more pressure/pumping than I seem to be able to master, so he takes over and it just shoots and we clean up.
Why not just avoid cumming in her mouth then? Options also include: Breasts , or do like a friend of mine used to do with his girlfriend: cup it in your hand then wash it off.
Face it, she doesn't respect you. Have some self respect and walk away. (this is said somewhat tongue in cheek, but not entirely).
Int1103, I totally agree. As for your second last sentence, I will only say that "...and, neither do women."
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[QUOTE=wet_suit_one;244614] "...and, neither do women."[/QUOTE]
Oh, very much agreed, WSO. My point is merely that, the expectation that one's own wishes be taken into consideration by another, does not (necessarily*) equal a lack of respect for the 'another'.
*Granted, some people, both men and women, are simply selfish idiots. But not all, and I think it best to avoid a rush to judgment. (Some consider my highly developed sense of tact and 'benefit of the doubt' almost annoying at times)
Don't cum in her mouth. Use a condom, pull out, cum in the condom. Show her that you don't have to cum in her mouth. Then try w/o a condom.
Sidenote:WSO the fact that she pick him to be her first shows a lot of respect and trust for him.
Ok eat lots of pineapple, and then don't cum in her mouth. Has she tasted your cum? Why is she against you releasing in her mouth I know many women don't want you to for lots of reasons, those reasons need to be respected but it is nice to know the reason if it is taste you can change that. If it is hygiene cleaning it well before can overcome that. So what is her issue?