Hello, My girlfriend and I are not virgins but have not yet had sex with each other. I have went down on her and she has on me and thats as far as we have gone. When I'm fingering her or giving her oral and I stop for a second sometimes she says things like "I think we should stop". I know she was enjoying it before but for some reason she starts to feel guilty about doing it or shes just not comportable with "letting go". I just want to make her feel good. Any tips on getting her to relax and enjoy? I'm not trying to pressure her into doing anything she doesnt want to but I get the feeling she does enjoy it and wants to continue.
thanks
Please read and then have her read Body Worship and The Program for the actual 'mechanics' and techniques.
As for her thoughts, well, only she can decide that sex is not 'dirty' or 'bad' which is the most common reason for women to not permit themselves to enjoy sex and accept their sexuality.
You may want her to read this website: www.iep.utm.edu/s/sexualit.htm which is about The Philosophy of Sex.
It will not answer her questions but may help her make up her own mind.
Your job is to assist and support but not to pressure or push her.