> we can still go to 3rd..so i wanna make her orgasm from fingering her/eating her out...how can i do this?

First and foremost, please know and understand that we do not give orgasms away. Each person, male and female, is responsible for his/her own. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help them achieve them. This said, the next thing is to learn if she masturbates and has orgasms on her own. If not, then there is little or nothing you can do for her until she makes this transition.

If she does orgasm regularly then you can help her to have them manually and/or orally. The key is to learn how to mimic her movements, rhythms, and pressures. Encourage her to demonstrate how she masturbates and then to take your hand in hers and guide your movements over several sessions until you learn how to duplicate her technique. Once you can do this you can bring her to the brink of an orgasm and beyond. The same holds true for you with her. Demonstrate how you masturbate and then take her hand in yours and guide her movements several times until she learns how you do it.

Oral stimulation generally provides a different path to Nirvana than fingering or stroking. Often the sensations are much more intense yet not what we require and have come to rely upon over the years to trigger an orgasm. So, you have options:
* you can finger her
* you can stimulate her orally
* you can combine the two in what I refer to as the "Dynamic Duo" and then when it comes time to trigger an orgasm, use fingering alone--at least until you know her body better.

Oral stimulation can include any or all of the following:
* Tracing your tongue down the center of the upper Vulva, perhaps trailing your fingers
* Licking and gently sucking the Labia Majora and Labia Minora
* Licking and flicking the tip of the clitoris and hood
* Licking and brushing your lips against the vaginal opening and tonguing just inside the opening. The outside and just inside are richly endowed with sensitive nerve endings
* Lick and tongue her anus only after she has become extremely aroused

* Use your lips as a vibrator. Purse them together and expel air out like you would if making the sound of an outboard motor or lawnmower engine. You can hum to add interest. You can change the tempo and intensity by changng the how fast air is expelled as well as how tightly you have your lips together.

Try different things and as always, take your cues from her reactions.