OK this has been brought up a lot...

But never fear...some woman take a long long LONG time to finish...and not all woman are pornstar screamers when they cum....for all you know she has finished...I mean to quote doc (I believe) womans orgasms are internalized...so unless she squirts you wont know...

Plus woman dont need to cum to enjoy things (most woman can and DO enjoy intercourse without climax) I mean my girl loves oral, but usually she doesnt cum (penetration is the easiest for her) she usually just gets close and comes down (no pun intended ;))

If it bothers you a whole lot, just sit down and have a heart to heart if she says she cums or if she likes it then dont worry.

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Thank you.

another fast way is to b creative and use ur hands maker her feel sexy and stuff like that and tease its all in the mind

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How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

Feedback (verbal or non-verbal) is another key to success. It is important for each of you to give the other partner feedback on how you are responding to his/her caresses and for what you need now.

Forty minutes of slurping is way to long! If you want to extend loving making do so with many short foreplay sessions instead of one very long one. People tend to become bored, sore, and tired, so break up what you do.

Also, apply oral stimulation only after she has become very highly aroused. This is preferred instead of using it as a means to an end.

Hi Rob. Are you bringing your girlfriend to orgasm with your hand? If you've got good at playing with each other like that then something that often works for me is to go down on her AFTER she's had a first orgasm. Give her a little time to recover, but pretty quickly head down and play after she has first come. You will have to be very gentle (which the mouth is best at), but you will soon find out if she can have multiple orgasms, which many women can. Unlike men, when a woman has climaxed she stays on a arousal 'plateau' which means it doesn't take much extra to make her climax again.
An alternative would be to bring her near to orgasm with your hands, taking a long time about it. 40 minutes with a hand is much more manageable than 40 minutes with your mouth! Then, when she is very aroused, seeing if you can take her over the edge orally. If you are using your hand at first it also gives you the opportunity to speak to her and excite her with your words too. Tell her what you are going to do to her, describe your mouth and tongue on her. That will help her to fully engage physically and mentally when you do go down.
Oh, and don't forget, while you're down there, to tell how how wonderful she is and feels and tastes and look up into her eyes occasionally while you are giving cunnilingus. It's a killer.

Lick the clitoris. I had a really hard time getting my girlfriend to come from oral also because when I tried to lick the clitoris she said it tickled and didn't like it too much, but that was just because she wasn't used to it (her old boyfriend was a terrible lover). About 3 months of trying to get her to come without exposing the clitoris for very long she still didn't come. Then about a month ago she told me that she told her friend that couldn't come from oral, and her friend told her what I tried to do to begin with, play with the clitoris. So the next try, she finally came from it. Let's just say that now every time we have sex it begins with me getting her to come at least once from oral before I penetrate for another 3-6 (yes 7 in 1 night is so far our record ^_^) and her orgasms from it are getting extremely intense and it makes me hot has hell.

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and her orgasms from it are getting extremely intense and it makes me hot has hell.[/quote]

Why does that turn men on? The intensity? Does it make you as a man feel you do well or you find her letting loose a turn on?

[QUOTE=sera300;213013]Why does that turn men on? The intensity? Does it make you as a man feel you do well or you find her letting loose a turn on?[/QUOTE]
I think it's just because of how much she enjoyed what I helped her achieve. Plus, a woman's face during an orgasm is a turn on for sure, then the VERY erect nipples and whole body tensing up, her shoving my face down so I don't stop. The whole thing is a turn on.

[quote=basic;213047]I think it's just because of how much she enjoyed what I helped her achieve. Plus, a woman's face during an orgasm is a turn on for sure, then the VERY erect nipples and whole body tensing up, her shoving my face down so I don't stop. The whole thing is a turn on.[/quote] Okay I understand that being a turn on; does "pride" take part in the excitment for men?

Sera:

Oh its definitely the letting lose (Of course it is also an ego booster when a girl has a mind blowing orgasm)

For example. I was giving oral saturday night. She was getting close and was starting to moan and such, until I pulled back her hood and sucked directly on the clit and did the little lick with it. I swear I thought she was going to explode. She was starting to move from soft moan to near screams. Her hips were bucking, pulling my hair, trying to crush my head with her legs. It was soooooooooo hot that it only took about a minute of oral to finish me (and it usually takes a good 30 to 40 minutes to do that)

Plus girls seem to always look extremely sexy after orgasm. I dont know why. I mean her hair was all messed up, she had this devilish grin. It was the sexiest thing EVER! haha ;)

Haha damn basic beat me too it lol

Yes there is pride involved as well. No matter how much a man denies it.

I was just curious; of course I see many who want or are good at what they do b/c they are attentive. But I never thought to ask if ego plays part in the eroticism [to them internally]. I do not run around with hang ups sexually but I know many women do; never thought to ask a man if the ego part was part of what made it "hot". Yeah, hair is messed...face flushed and we get all snuggly or open & talkative with an ear to ear grin...

Precisely :-D. She gets kind of embarrassed which makes it even more cute. Embarrassed in a good way... I don't know how to explain it ha.

Yes, egos matter. Remember how bad your partner feels if you don't orgasm?

I think I know what you mean. She has a little laugh to everything. Not a full hearted hardy har har. But more of a little ha. Generally cuz they are so surprised of what just happened.

And EEK, you say it as if were the only one who takes pride in performance. I mean....if you made a totally experienced wonderful lover turn into total jelly, wouldnt you feel proud?

I was just curious about a mans thoughts on it...yes, I know partners who are skilled do care but I did not know if this is a male ego issue on the side...sort of more of an unwritten topic. Yes, basic & ducy put it in perspective, but wondered if the degree of perception of "hot" is coming from what they put into the experience...and the hotness they experienced was due to their perceived abilities v. another mans ability.