Ok, here's the dilemma. I'm a guy, and my girlfriend just doesn't know how to give good head. She wants me to help her get better, and i know that i want her to get better, but i have no idea what to do. She's beautiful and awsome in every way, but just doesn't know how to give good oral and she's not ready for sex. any advice would be very much appreciated.
Sat, 12/13/2003 - 19:56
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Getting Good Oral
Maybe you could read a book together...The Joy of Sex or something along those lines. As everyone else has said, just tell her what feels good. Verbally encourage her while she is doing it. Tell her where to lick or rub and maybe encourage her to suck gently. Have her tease you a little with her tongue just at the base of the head. Try not to pressure her to deepthroat for while. That is a little overwhelming at first. Never push her head, only caress it. Never criticize! That will giver her a complex and she may have negative feeling towards oral sex. Just be patcient!
And are you sure she is having orgasms when you giver her oral? Maybe encourage her, too, to tell you what she likes. Best of luck to you both!!
it seems as if time may be working. we just tried again last night....and she finally got me off. she's still got work to do, but it was very nice for me, and i could tell that she was excited. so i guess as time goes on, little by little, she seems to be getting better. it seemed to work well if i started to take a lil control by either moving her head, or my hips depending on the position we were in to get the rhythm going. another thing that helped was 69. i love that position, and it worked wonders for both of us.
Just keep trying. With practice and by watching your reaction she will get better. Plus, it's gonna be great fun for you!
You should know what you want so you can instruct her,or?!
And if you want to tell her how to do it,than do it but with a "feelings".Not like..."do it like that.No!You are doing it totaly wrong now.This is the third time that i tell you,but you are still doing it wrong" and things like that.Just try to slowly lead her on the things you like.
Or you can just show her
last night we made a little progress. she finally got me off for the first time, although just using her hand. It's definately a start, and things should go uphill from here. i'm thinkin i'm gonna try hinting at what feels good and she'll probably learn. and i know that i'm not just doin this for me cause when i did get off, she had a huge smile on her face. she was as proud as me, haha.
if she thought the same about the way i give oral then she probably wouldn't orgasm as much. but that's besides the point. I don't even know if i'm the first guy she's given head to. she tells me that she wants me to teach her how to make me cum, and i've never had to teach before. I know that she wants to get better just as i want her to get better.
well if shes only probally done it 4 or 5 times, give the kid a break my god, what if she thought the same about when you gave her oral? hmmm? :P
I'd say she's tried about four or five times so far. i did get her to keep the teeth outta the way most of the time the last time, but still needs work. So now it just doesn't hurt, but still doesn't feel good. There shouldn't be such thing as bad oral, it just shouldn't happen (but obviously it does).
Hmm i duno, i'd figure there isn't much you can do.. because well...she will learn... besides, how long has she been giving you head???
jamie
mmm, new to sex....well I have a year experience, so maybe that is relatively new. i was just with pretty much one girl in that time, and she was already amazing at everything, so i never really had to give advice. but i seem to be hearing a lot of "just say what feels good" and it should work itself out from there. well, i hope this works.
I am guessing you are new to sex. Most guys I know and the ones I have been with know exactly what they like. And it is not always the same thing. The key to helping your gf get better at oral is to know what you like. Then talk to her, tell her what you like. The best way to lind that out is to expirement. I thnik I am faily good at it onl because have some expireince and had guys tell me what they liked. Nobody is born knowing how to give good head.
Thanks for the advice. I'm still not so sure if i'm too clear on how to help her. maybe advice from a girl, on how she'd like to be "instructed" would help out.
I agree really wanting to do this is primary. But for practical suggestions go to PLEASING HIM: Deepthroating 101.
well part of the problem may be that since she's not ready for sex she's holding back and scared about giving oral.
but if you want to help her, then i suggest blowpops and popsicles (like the bluebell bullet pops).
i learned a lot by reading stuff on this site (like pleasure points and stuff like that) but i know i got the basic concept from blowpops and popsicles.