my girlfriend doesn't enjoy cunnilingus, she never lets me do it and says she doesn't enjoy it. This frustrates me because she gives me oral sex it feels great and I want her to feel good too. I feel a bit like I'm missing out on opportunities because she won't let me give her oral sex. I got her to try it a couple times and the one time she said it felt good, but now she stops me again. Am I wrong to be asking her to do something that she doesn't want, or should I get to do this part of sex. Any feedback from a womans point of view would be great, thanks
Sat, 08/16/2008 - 17:51
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getting girl to enjoy oral sex
If she says no that dude it is no. I enjoy giving my boyfriend oral sex, yet I don't like to receive. And well I'm 47 and don't really think too much could change my mind.
Am I wrong to be asking her to do something that she doesn't want, or should I get to do this part of sex.
To read this is a little disturbing. Sex is for mutual enjoyment and why would you even want to, or feel that you should be able to do something that makes your partner uncomfortable.
Any feedback from a womans point of view would be great, thanks
So if it is important that you to perform oral sex, go find a new girlfriend.
Take it like this, she doesn't want to be tied up. So you don't tie her up.
She doesn't want to give you oral sex, so she DOESN"T give you oral sex.
She doesn't want anal, you don't do anal.
Or she doesn't want green peppers on her salad, so no green peppers on her salad. This is her choice and you should NOT pressure her into doing anything she does not want to do. Maybe she will change her mind, but until then stay away. No is no, if it's to stop everything or just to stop oral sex. No is NO.
If she does not like it so be it. If once she did with you perhaps it's your technique? Or she finds it some how offensive? Or she believes she may smell badly? Ask why and see. If she just hates it, you are out of luck.
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body makeover is in order..........deep cleansing you know.
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well one thing is try telling her that you would enjoy doing it to her, but her body is her body so it is her decision
I hear what your all saying but she didn't like a lot of different things about sex at first. Like doing doggy style, or performing oral sex and now she enjoys both. If we just would have quit these things, then now we wouldn't be enjoying them as much as we are
I think for most... it's just being self conscious about smell/taste... hairs...etc.
Just let her know you enjoy the way she tastes/smells.... and yes shower before hand.
Are you sure she enjoys doggy style and or performing oral sex on you? Maybe she's just doing it to make you happy, or to shut you up already. And this is her boundary, ask her, talk to her, not in bed, not during foreplay or sex and not even in afterglow. Talk to her, shut off the tv and talk to her. Let her know how you feel and ask her how she feels.
You kept on me about it, your butt would be sleeping on the floor, the couch if your lucky. No pillows, no blanket.
if she doesn't like it she doesn't like it. ask her what are other things she would like you to try, ask her what she likes about it and what she doesn't etc: just talk to her!
By all means ask her but understand she may not be willing to articulate her reasons. She may not even know why. Nevertheless, if her answer is NO then NO it is.