Ok, this is kinda embarassing to share and ask for advice on, but im gonna post it anyway. About a month ago, me and my girlfriend had sex for the first time, and it was a great experience. Well, a week later, we did it again, in her parents room at night, and her parents were out. They got home and they caught us in action, her parents didnt even want to look at me again. Well me and her kept secretly dating, still having sex, oral sex, etc. Well her parents went away this weekend out of state, the entire weekend I stayed over my girlfriends house, it was a good time. We had sex, hung out, watched movies, etc. Had a good time to be with her without hiding. Then me and her took a bath together and were giving eachother oral sex and started masturbating in front of eachother. Well I cummed alot, and then the next morning I left. Well unfortunately for me, my girlfriend got grounded and wasnt aloud to go out with anyone for the next month, and wasnt aloud to see me for a while. When I asked why, she got mad and said that the towel we used to wipe up the come, her parents saw it. She tried to explain that it wasnt me, but I also left my element shirt their. So now she is mad at me, her parents hate me, Idk what to do.
Mon, 03/26/2007 - 20:01
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Getting Caught....Twice!
What about your house?
[QUOTE=cummingkind;172160]Ok, this is kinda embarassing to share and ask for advice on, but im gonna post it anyway. About a month ago, me and my girlfriend had sex for the first time, and it was a great experience. Well, a week later, we did it again, in her parents room at night, and her parents were out. They got home and they caught us in action, her parents didnt even want to look at me again. Well me and her kept secretly dating, still having sex, oral sex, etc. Well her parents went away this weekend out of state, the entire weekend I stayed over my girlfriends house, it was a good time. We had sex, hung out, watched movies, etc. Had a good time to be with her without hiding. Then me and her took a bath together and were giving eachother oral sex and started masturbating in front of eachother. Well I cummed alot, and then the next morning I left. Well unfortunately for me, my girlfriend got grounded and wasnt aloud to go out with anyone for the next month, and wasnt aloud to see me for a while. When I asked why, she got mad and said that the towel we used to wipe up the come, her parents saw it. She tried to explain that it wasnt me, but I also left my element shirt their. So now she is mad at me, her parents hate me, Idk what to do.[/QUOTE]
Well at the very least its a great story to tell the grandkids.
^im serious, can you give me some advice, bc she is really mad at me.....
Mad at you or herself? Hey, it takes two to tango!
mad becuz you came?? that's jus stupid on her part - you both knew you weren't supposed to be there and he parents wouldn't like it and you both did it anyway - she MORE at fault for letting you in if you ask me
next time do it in the back of a car or something like all us other teenagers lol
Having sex in her parents' bed...why would you do that unless their window is on the first floor and hers is on the second??? Even if they hadn't caught you in the act...there's still things they could have noticed.
Here's the thing man...you are both young and playing around in her parents house with reckless abandon. IMO, what you have going on really does not pertain to what is going on here in this forum. You have a "I'm young and need to find a better place to have sex problem"...which has lead to a relationship problem since she's grounded and you're not. As Sera said...either she'll realize that she was there too and could have washed the towel or picked up your shirt...or she'll continue to blame you.
On the bright side, she's got a month to calm down before you see each other again and you know she won't be seeing anyone else.
k dude same experience here.... i dont know if its good advice but i actually had like a sit doen conversation with her dad and i tiol dhim everything weve done. H e understood and like was happy i was honest, her mom still hates me he likes me and thinks im a man for confessing. I dont know her parents are but thats what i would do.... sorry if it wasnt any help
It's both your fault. Do a better job of cleaning up next time, or go somewhere else.
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next time do it in the back of a car or something like all us other teenagers lol[/QUOTE]
lol thats funny, because ive tried but i drive a volkswagen. id say unless you drive a caddy stick to houses.
AS i said before what wrong with your house.
sucks for you. this goes deeper than just can you have sex again, this gets to will she go for you ever again. get her trust back. put a pause on your sex drive and focus on your relationship. of course its a little dumb on her part for being mad at you for such a thing. not like u could have seen in coming. no pun intended and all. as for the parents, dude, some parents wont forget something like that. but its how the girl feels about you that matters.
I was thinking about this one, and it is stupid that she's mad at you. She's just as much to blame.
On the other hand, you deserved to get caught. I mean that's the first rule you learn when the 'rents go out of town. Whether you are having a b/f or g/f over...or just having some friends over to hang out, or a party.... You learn to cover your tracks. You give yourself PLENTY of time to go over the house/car w/ a fine tooth comb to pick up any evidence. You sure don't leave anything as obvious as your shirt or a cum towel.
Also, to have sex in her parents bed! that deserves it even more!. I'd never have sex in someone's bed, and would hope no one would do that to me. My bed is like my sanctuary. It's where I go to relax, and love to nap on Sundays. I don't even like sleeping in anyone else's bed unless I know it has clean sheets!!!
It's disrespectful to do that and get your sweat and bodily fluids everywhere. Plus! you were doing it where her parents do it!! LOL eww that's even worse!
ok... firstly...
why were you having sex in her parents bed?? why not her bed?? even if her bed was a single bed there would have been less chance of getting caught and in her parents bed is a bit odd...
next issue... you never stated how old you are.. i mean if your of legal sex age/adulthood then i dont see her parents having a choice in the matter.. but hearing what you have said would mean that you are both teens..
anyhow in this why didn't you wash the towel beforehand and well. lets say make thorough checks that you have anything..
As for advice, i would continue to talk to your gf.. phone, internet chat, whatever just lay off seeing her for a while... then i would apologise deeply to her and her parents..
to her for obvious reasons and to her parents that they had to see you two getting romantically involved in their bed... As well lets say if you were a dad and seeing your girl with someone in YOUR bed would really tear u up inside.
good luck with it all. the rest is up to you.
Yeah Vper makes a good point... not only did you violate their daughter...but you did it under their own roof...in THEIR bed!!! That's a major slap in the face!!! LOL
[QUOTE=demonbuttercup;173214]Yeah Vper makes a good point... not only did you violate their daughter...but you did it under their own roof...in THEIR bed!!! That's a major slap in the face!!! LOL[/QUOTE]
lol. exactly..
my advice if you really love this girl... try not to anymore as i very much doubt her parents will be accepting of you again...
however i cannot predict the future and your best step would be a full bloated apology.. no gifts or anything... just apologise to them and see their reaction. if they still hate you for it then u might want to consider moving on until a later stage. but really you do not want to get what could be/could not be your future inlaws offsided.
Just think if u marry this girl they will be your inlaws for life... may want to straighten things out now before things get too ugly.