Don't really know for sure, but I suspect genetics would play a part in some way.

Genetics? Maybe more like hormones and attitudes...

Add in stigma, social upbringing, moral teachings, and other "stuff" that gets in the way of normal feelings, urges, and desires.

For many women maturing in the '30s and '40s, sex was a "wifely duty" and the only way short of adoption to have a child. They did it to help keep peace in the family. A common complaint was that "I don't like sex because I don't like to be wet and sticky and have to wash afterward," or words to that effect.

Go back even further into our Puritan beliefs just far enough to enter the Victorian era and the "Guilded Age", and there were some enlightened doctors who would relieve many complaints women patients would come to them about with a "Digital Manipulation". Now, this DM was performed with the patient fully clothed (in those days a doctor never saw a patient naked!) and she was brought to orgasm whereupon all stresses and tensions, and frustrations were relieved with the keen dexterity of his fingers.

> And then there are some people who arent too into it and their parents dont show much affection towards one another or they are single children...

> So what do you think? coincidence, or am I on to something here?

Oh, you're onto something, as far as you go. Some of this behavior or lack of is the result of an attitude nurtured in social class and standards of behavior that men and women adhered to socially. Keep in mind that it wasn't too many years ago that men and women did not mix socially at parties. There were discrete and separate social protocols that people followed. So, while each may have had healthy libidos, lust in their hearts, there were little PDAs {Public Displays of Affection) that transitioned into the home behind closed doors, also.

One of the results of the Sexual Revolution of the 1960s was to put a stop to this up tight repressive restrictive behavior. For more on this aspect of human behavior and social structure, rent the movie: "The Road To Wellville"; starring Anthony Hopkins, Bridget Fonda, and, Matthew Broderick. It is a cute movie about all this prudishness.

Here is one place where nurture beats nature hands down. If one is raised in a sexually repressive environment, libido is thing of embarassment and will be suppressed. Raised in an open and communicative environment, it will be recognized as healty and normal.

Sure, genetics plays a role in everything and we are discovering more each day. It is safe to say, though, the way are raised has the still dominant effect on sexual expression.

I wish Doc were correct in the 1960s ending sexually repressive upbringing. Some board member did a little poll a while back on how women here learned about sex. Very few heard anything from their parents. Most of whom had screwed at least once.

its the whole nature v nuture arguement...i think genetics has some role to play but upbringing, social stigma ect (as dancingdoc and brandye suggest as well) have i significant impact on the person's expectations and therefore expenditures in the bedroom...

Genetics as far as inclined to have a low hormone base?

I was raised in a VERY Catholic home, brought to Mass weekly, etc. I recall my mother telling me "Wait dear until he puts the ring on your hand"---I was somewhere are around 19 then...well sexuality with men began at 14 for me...no hang ups. Parents were affectionate in the house & out of it as well since they were "married". The mantra in our house was "good girls don't" they forgot the part "but I do..." (song). Behavior was to be acceptable in crowds among those who were not peers, closed doors? Any thing "flies" as far as I am concerned.

There is proper behavior is public. But if I went on what my parents "taught me"...I'd be a Nun....40+ and still going strong. A whole nother issue...only one divorced in the family & trust me no one understands STILL. My brother? He minds his own business unless there appears to be impending harm.

Genetics? I think only has to do with ones libido. The rest is your own actions...it could be either nature or nurture based upon your environment...

And yes, a Priest still will tell me "it's only for couples in the marital bond"...sorry not a good enough answer for me; as if I am supposed to wait? I'd shrivel up and die...

yeah..as far a lower homone level..now what i said wasnt going to affect everyone but some...

[quote=hollywood807;203398]yeah..as far a lower homone level..now what i said wasnt going to affect everyone but some...[/quote]Low hormone levels are highly linked to lack of sex drives/libidos in both men & women. Hormones throughout the body are a very delicate balance.

Not just any old hormone either. The 'culprit' is testosterone - king of the libido. Those with more, relative to the others in their body, will TEND to have a higher sex drive than those who do not. This accounts for the teenage male as well as the 40 something siren. As her estrogen drops, the level of testosterone, relatively speaking, increases with the result that few men are 'safe'.

Note: the hormones and resultant sex drive is NATURE.
Now as to whether they ACT upon that desire is a product of NUTURE.

Therein lies the difference and the answer.

The "episode" of hormone imbalances re: POV; the dissertation given by the Gyn & Endocrinologist to me was first women require sufficient Estrogen levels and then add testosterone...the estrogen is a precursor for the uptake of the testosterone. You as you age will still fire off some estrogen from sources...adrenals mainly. Therefore, Testosterone will work wonders. The rates of POV and the ages of the women astounded me.

I hit the point I was just about begging for testosterone to return to "normal" libido [for me was always very high] and I was told if the estrogen was not present the testosterone would do not help. Estratest worked wonders with some prog. added for 12 days a month...now many months later those hormones are back to norm.

Then the other matter...is thought to have had some effect on the imbalance of why NO detectable hormone levels were present. It was confirmed various times using different labs & calibrated lab machines. At first, it was thought to be a "lab error". Never give up on the hormones!

Hurray for hormones!!!

Well, as I understand it (and I could be wrong) men's testoserone levels decrease as they get older, while women produce less oestregen, which shifts their balance a bit more in favour of testosterone. So men become softer as they get older, while women become more assertive. ie: Men become more like women and women become more like men. Could explain a lot.

Then again, it could be a load of bollocks.

[quote=Ducy;203688]Dude...I cant wait to get older....my libido will probably calm down a bit (I hope...) and the women will be a bit more antsy....:D[/quote]
Ducy...enjoy it. Find women with high sex drives.

Super advice......................;)

How to Find Women with High Sex Drives

When you try to introduce yourself, she gets a firm grip on your lapels and says shut up and lay down.

She walks over to you and kisses you before she introduces herself.

If you walk into a place and a sudden electric charge surges through the room, pay attention, she's there and she's interested. All you have to do is find her. This will not be difficult.

I went to a meet and greet with like minded people and couples down in Richmond a while back. He walked into the place, a non-affiliated with our group person, with his guy buddy and the effect was immediate. WOW! MY friends started laughing at me, gently. They kept handing me napkins. Unfortunately this guy was oblivious and left before direct action could ensure. Damn! My friends were amazed. Mind you I had never seen the man before; didn't know his name or his status in life - but it didn't matter. Some men are just catnip to this Kitten.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;203565]Not just any old hormone either. The 'culprit' is testosterone - king of the libido. Those with more, relative to the others in their body, will TEND to have a higher sex drive than those who do not. This accounts for the teenage male as well as the 40 something siren. As her estrogen drops, the level of testosterone, relatively speaking, increases with the result that few men are 'safe'.

Note: the hormones and resultant sex drive is NATURE.
Now as to whether they ACT upon that desire is a product of NUTURE.

Therein lies the difference and the answer.[/QUOTE]

http://www.timinvermont.com/fitness/boosttes.htm

Also fishoil and daily vitamins will help.

Lower down your masturbation and your test will jump by 150%

LOL, like I need a higher testosterone level!!!!
*wiping tears from eyes*
LMAO!!!!

Thanks! I needed that!!

That was just a link to men's health! Ways for men to help keep their testosterone levels up! I doubt you need much of that plus would not benefit you much ( I doubt you, personally, have an erection in the am)! LOL!

Men's Health is a pretty good magazine...used to read it at my ex's house.

true enough, sera - but one has to keep up so of course we read it too

[quote=EvilEvilKitten;204046]true enough, sera - but one has to keep up so of course we read it too[/quote]I read it while swimming to catch up on men's issues. Picked up the sublime and what their readers wanted info about---not much different then the board questions!