I've been with my girlfriend for a year and a half now and we started having sex about 8 monthes ago. It started off alright and it is continually getting better but i can't seem to get her off. We'll have sex for 30 sometimes 40 minutes and she likes it alot but never seems to have an orgasm. I don't think i'm doing anything wrong because we're both tired and she says she has alot of pleasure just never an orgasm. She loves being eaten out and fingered and sex is just that much better but nothing seems to be able to get her off. I mentioned anal stuff but she didn't seem to thrilled about the idea so i wasn't sure of any thing else that could help the situation. Any light that can be shined down on this is greatly appreciated.
Mon, 04/26/2004 - 03:57
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then the best thing i wud recommend is a sex toy.
she said she feels weird masturbating but loves when i finger her. She said she tried to masturbate once but can not be turned on by herself and isn't into watching porn or anything. So i am not sure how she could explore herself. She has said she feels like she is getting close at times but soon to that time i am reaching my orgasm and then i feel like i let her down. We have good sex no doubt about that i just feel i could be doing something to help her.
I wonder to if she masterbates and achieves orgasm. Women have orgasm through clitoris stimulation. I would sugest getting a vibrator and while you two are having sex let her put that on her clit. Let her hold and control it. I find that a much better way to cum.
Omega is dead on about the anal. Don't look at porn and think that is the normal way for women to behave. Its not. I have done it and its the rare time that I have not been in terrible pain. I do it only for what I can get form my hubby. Its one area that comes with a very high price.
Alright, first off, it happens to be true that there are girls out there that just unfortunantly cannot and will not have an orgasm but they can still experience pleasure through sex or any other activity of the sort. I'm not sure if you've looked around yet but there have been many posts that talk about guys unable to make their girlfriends orgasm.
So an advice would be to "look around" and see the other posts in the forum, some quick tips would be to ask her to masturbate for you so you can see what gets her off. Speaking of which, your description of the situation is really quite vague, I mean, does she masturbate? And if so has she ever had an orgasm touching herself? They're all part of the whole picture.
Also, just because your both tired does not mean that your not doing anything wrong. And even in that sense doing something "wrong" in the subject of sex is just too vague to apply to the whole population.
And if you did do anal, just note that for most girls out there anal hurts like a bitch, and it's usually something that the guy wants to do and the girl allows only for something in exchange. But some girls do enjoy it but your girl doesn't seem to look forward to that activity at all.
But the best piece of advice that I can give you is really to talk to her, and it would be fortunate if she did masturbate because then she could show you and tell you what feels best to her. But either way talking will help more then just poking around you know?
i hurd that some women cant orgasm during sex. i think that women acheive orgasm with the help of clit stimulation which u already said that you was doing.
so if what i said is true then mabye she is just one of those people.
do you know if she has ever had an orgasm?
(might sound stupid) mabye she has had one but dosent know? (told you)
you could ask her what things she like, mabye it help to get more dirty (well i think it would be kewl) but i dont think that it is anythink to worrie about. you havent mentioned that shes complained about the sex, if its okay with her and she cant orgasm during sex then there shouldnt be a problem really? (correct me if im wrong)
p.s about the porn thing, women just dont act like that in real life, i seen movie were i guy will like a womans nipple and she will be spurting lol.
-Regards Tilston