EEK is rubbing off on me...

[Firmus]

I'd love to leave it just as that title, but that's not what I meant.

I'm stuck in Alabama, some 5 hours away from home and everything I would rather be doing. Had a lunch with people I couldn't care less about, but because they are venders it was free. I'm kind of a dining male prostitute.

These 2 dudes were apparently a divorce pro (fat guy) and a divorce novice (teeny tiny guy). The majority of the conversation was the divorce pro giving tidbits to the novice on how great it is being divorced. It was like a crappy Sex and the City for guys, portrayed by Laurel and Hardy.

Fat guy: "I've been divorced 3 times, and there ain't no way a woman's getting me to get married. I've learned that lesson already that women aren't the answer, they're the problem! Har Har Har!" He then made some odd head-clearing sound. Most likely the last of his self respect was leaking out.

That's when I chimed in with "Did you ever stop to think that you're the common factor in all 3 of those?"

Lunch was awkwardly quiet for the remaining 15 minutes. But hey, they had the green spearmints there on the way out! Score!

[Ducy]

LOL!

Firmus you make me proud!

[g-dubz]

EEK seems to be rubbing off of me too here of late LOL.

@ Firmus: You're better than me. I probably would've kept that comment to myself ha ha

[EvilEvilKitten]

LMAO!
Makes you look at the world in a whole new light, doesn't it, fellas?

Good man, Firmus!!

[hot-texan]

too funny Firmus

[Aphrodite_66]

Yeah good on you,funny how the men seem to blame the women for everything that goes wrong.As if they are the innocent victim in the relationship.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Come now, men do not admit making mistakes when speaking in the company of other men.

[BigBear40]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Come now, men do not admit making mistakes when speaking in the company of other men.

Real men do

[Ducy]

The funny thing is that MOST men tend to blame themselves for failed relationships, and MOST women blame the men on failed relationship. I will try to find the aticle but they did a study. Even when the woman would cheat, men tended to blame themselves for the failed relationship, while the cheaters would blame the men as well.

Case and point. My buddy dumped his gf last night, he blames himself for rushing into things, and not taking it slower (she is very very VERY clingy...the call at 7:01 and complain that you didn't call (because you promised to call at 7))

Of course, I wake up this morning to her putting him on blast via facebook talking about how he's this and that and all these mean names and how she needs to find guys who aren't a holes etc. Of course she doesn't bother to take the fact that he told her she was too clingy as a sign to maybe change. She is going to "find a real man who wants a real woman".

[EvilEvilKitten]

Yes, please find the study. I'd love to see it.

I also wonder if there's a difference between public and private behavior.
I'd venture to say that there is.

I can't go by personal experience here because men talking to me is not how these same men would talk to other men who are not their buddies. But when I ask the men if they would admit error to other men, they say no, they wouldn't.

I do know that while women may publicly lambast the men, they still privately believe that they didn't 'handle it' right, second guess themselves and over-think it.