EEK is rubbing off on me...

[EvilEvilKitten]

Ah, but there's a kind of 'communication' that isn't verbal. I shall give you an example from my past.

Two young guys in uniform and of a greater enlisted rank were chatting up and flirting in an overtly sexual way with two young women in uniform of lesser enlisted rank while I, also in uniform, was watching. The other women moved off and I asked the guys "Why didn't you flirt with me like that?" The braver of the two said "Because you'd deck me." I nodded and told him he was correct before I too walked away.

Apparently I was dangerous even before I became a dominatrix.

[RedRoses]

Most certainly Communication not need to be about words. A blink of an eye can be enough. Bodylanguage and facial expression are a major part of any conversation.

Yet; I think without words the message "I want to date/have sex/etc with you" comes through more clearly, than "I also want to date/have sex/etc with other (wo)men". I can imagine some situations in which that could be clear immediately, but many in which it isn't

Everyone can handle communication in the way that suits best. But I'd think that when one is too ashamed or fearful to even mention it or puts effort in avoiding the subject, consider it a red warning sign that's worth scrutinizing before proceeding.

Personally; I tend to ask straightforward but open questions, inviting to a conversation without shame, games and role-playing. Doesn't work on everyone. Some temporarily or permanently walk around with their chest in chains and either run or get angry when even pointing at the locks. And I'll admit some days my heart is just not as open as it is on others. Yet it's amazing once a heart-to-heart-connection is established, how people can relax and blossom when we're just allowed to be ourselves

[EvilEvilKitten]

And there is the core of the matter - being who you are without pretense or defense. Few have the courage hence these issues w dating.