Looking for guidance

[Cognito]

Hello Posters

I signed up a while ago but have never really posted until now. I am looking for new and sincere friends to maybe help guide me through rocky marriage issues that have come up recently.

I guess communication is the priority here but everything i say seems to be the wrong thing. I love to share with my spouse but she is more restrained about discussing problems much less solutions.

So any ideas on the communication block?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Look at it from HER point of view.
Then get back to us.

[dancingdoc2]

> I guess communication is the priority here but everything i say seems to be the wrong thing. I love to share with my spouse but she is more restrained about discussing problems much less solutions.

Has she always been resistant to discussing matters or solving problems, or is this a recent change in behavior?

I agree with EEK, and look forward to some insight on your part. Now, having said that, I have always pointed out that relationships are partnerships and not an arrangement in which something is done to the other. Better to do things with and for each other in partnership.

Confrontations-- About Fighting, Arguing & Negotiating
How to give your partner the most of what s/he wants without giving up the core of what you want. Or--making life better and more peaceful.

Perhaps counseling is called for. If she will not talk to you then perhaps she will feel more willing to discuss whatever problems she may have with a third person.