Anniversaries... w/o having sex being part of the equation

[sensualGoddess]

Originally, I came here to post looking for ideas for what we can do on our anniversary. I don't do the monthly anniversary thing to be grammatically and politically correct.

As I have often stated before, I'm not planning on having sex with my bf yet and things have gotten so much better since he's gotten back.

Anyways, as the title implies I'm beginning to start planning for our anniversary but...

1. I don't know what to get him
2. For some reason it seems...well mandatory that on anniversaries or after a certain amount of time your "supposed" to have sex.

Don't get me wrong, we already have several special things planned, and it's not like we have exhausted everything yet. I just need some other ideas that would make out anniversary and all others memorable.

For us, this is kind of meant to be really special for so many reasons.

After a few weeks from now, this would be his longest relationship with any girl, so of course I want him to know how special he is to me. I also want to highlight the fact that we've known each other for four years now and in those four years we had previously experimented with possibly turning our friendship into what we have today.

I don't think I'm going way over my head with this just yet.

I just need some ideas right now that wouldn't rely on sex being the one thing to top this.

So any ideas? I'm open to a lot right now

[brian11zy]

My wife and I when we want to have a special night like an anniversary but not limited to that, we get the parents to watch the kids and have the house to ourselves. I build a fire in the fireplace,(yes even in the summer because it sets the mood) We get some good wine and put some slow sexy music on and we dance naked in front of the fire place. This dosen't have to lead to sexy it can just be romantic. We usualy have some chocolates or strawberries to snack on and tease each other till it becomes to much to take and then we lay down in front of the fireplace and slowly, very slowly we make love.

Some times we just hold each other close and whisper sexy stories to each other.

[dancingdoc2]

Way to go Brian!

SG, my normal recommendation would be to not invest a lot of money in a gift for a boyfriend. The most meaningful gifts are those with thought and purpose behind their choice, not the price tag. That the two of you have been friends for several years, it seems to me to be appropriate to spend a larger sum of money, yet still maintaining the thought and purpose aspect.

How much is your budget? What does he like or show interest in? Is he into jewelry, clothes, hobby related interests? Has he expressed an interest in getting a particular product, recently?

Ask a family member or a friend of his for ideas or suggestions. You might also want to wander the mall and see if there are any gifts that are significant to the two of you that he would like.

> For some reason it seems...well mandatory that on anniversaries or after a certain amount of time your "supposed" to have sex.

WRONG. By "sex" do you mean having intercourse? I do not know where you picked up this notion, but it t'aint so and for several reasons. That you pose the thought tells me you are not ready, so there goes that theory. Who determines "a certain amount of time"?

When you do decide upon a gift, why not present it to him at the end of a special event like a hike and picnic? Wonderful dinner at a nice (although not necessarily expensive) restaurant?

Please give me the additional information and maybe one or more of us can come up with other suggestions.

-doc

[RedRoses]

Wow, Brian, that's really wonderful!

Each (wo)man is different... My bf is not much about celebrating special days, doesn't like to plan things. He can be romantic and gives me spontaneous tokens of his love. Which is sweet! Whenever there's a special day and I'd like to celebrate, I always have a hard time thinking of something he'd like to do, cause he's just not into it... He likes making me happy, though... I usually get him meaningful symbolic gifts, partially handmade or books with a special phrase... Sometimes for a special occasion, sometimes just because I feel like it. He really likes these gifts; he puts them on display in his house. Just as some keep trophies in a cabinet Only this stuff does not represent victory, but warm thoughts, wishes and special memories. And off course: he loves a special meal with candle light in the comfort of home any time. Success guaranteed.

Yet: on our first year anniversary he totally surprised me. He made me breakfast with cake and cream. We cuddled all morning. No, better: he worshiped me with long strokes and tender kisses, whispering softly in my ears. Then he took me to the sea to have a walk. We watched the sun go down and walked in the dark. It was freezing! But the warm thought totally made up for that! We went to a restaurant which he wanted to keep a surprise and refused to tell me, even when he had totally lost his way and really needed directions In the evening, he had even got me a present as cherry on the cake: a teddy to keep me warm on the lonely nights that he's not there. I didn't need it that evening as I fell asleep in his warm arms. I was totally overwhelmed by his efforts. It was a great day with lots of love and laughter. It was just the cutest thing!

O no, the absolute cutest and most romantic thing he ever did, would be how he drew hearts in the snow in front of my house. A large heart with a tiny one in the center, as he smiled and blew powder snow kisses to me. No anniversary, nothing planned, simply a beautiful snowy winterevening which got him a sudden romantic explosion and I gladly was swept of my feet by it

[sensualGoddess]

Haven't been on this thread for awhile but...wow, I was blown away by Brian's response.

About a week ago I had this conversation with a group of friends if anniversaries should automatically mean sexual intercourse. As in..."you owe your man something..."

Of course, they said yes. :P...which means I'll do the opposite of the norm.

As for gifts, I don't want to do anything too big, I just figured I'd could give him a gift card and a box of Godiva chocolates naked would solve all issues.

To be honest, I find it weird that it should be mandatory (societal standards) for a well established dating couple to consummate their relationship by a benchmark of a year, two years, three...etc.

Sexual intercourse, of course is always a welcome option, I just don't think it should be the only option or the be all end all to top off a great anniversary.

As for what I have planned now is rather simple, it's just to let things happen. No plans of extravagance, just letting everything happen the way nature intends it to. The concept with this thought is that 9 days before we dated, we just let things happen and it was the first time I ever relinquished control or didn't plan for anything. The result is where we are today. This is what we want to bring back for our anniversary.

But I am still interested to hear other people's stories or opinions now.

[lyly10388]

Originally Posted by sensualGoddess

Originally, I came here to post looking for ideas for what we can do on our anniversary. I don't do the monthly anniversary thing to be grammatically and politically correct.

As I have often stated before, I'm not planning on having sex with my bf yet and things have gotten so much better since he's gotten back.

Anyways, as the title implies I'm beginning to start planning for our anniversary but...

1. I don't know what to get him
2. For some reason it seems...well mandatory that on anniversaries or after a certain amount of time your "supposed" to have sex.

Don't get me wrong, we already have several special things planned, and it's not like we have exhausted everything yet. I just need some other ideas that would make out anniversary and all others memorable.

For us, this is kind of meant to be really special for so many reasons.

After a few weeks from now, this would be his longest relationship with any girl, so of course I want him to know how special he is to me. I also want to highlight the fact that we've known each other for four years now and in those four years we had previously experimented with possibly turning our friendship into what we have today.

I don't think I'm going way over my head with this just yet.

I just need some ideas right now that wouldn't rely on sex being the one thing to top this.

So any ideas? I'm open to a lot right now

I also think so.

[sensualGoddess]

Accidental repost?

Anyways, I started to stop worrying about this so much partially, because I'm not on this site often nowadays but now I'm leaving whatever happens completely up to chance.

For some reason unknown, I find things to be much more nicer and intense rather than to plan things out.

If it was the reason why we ended up dating in the first place, it'll be the reason why I won't have to worry anymore.