Friends with opposite sex ?

[Five1ofFun]

What are your thougths. I know it is possable but what do you REALY think? How does opposite sex friends at work make you feel. Lunches, bike rides, movies. Is this ok or not???

[dancingdoc2]

Friends are friends, regardless, of gender or place of employment. That said, dating someone you work with is not recommended; although, if s/he works on a different shift then that arrangement is better.

A possible problem can arise when a friendship turns into something more. So, if you would like to cultivate a friendship with a coworker, choose someone you would not likely become romantically involved with.

[dlb]

I have lots of friends of the opposite sex who I met through work. I don't allow gender to influence my decisions about who I make friends with.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Friends are friends and the gender doesn't matter. I too have lots of friends of both genders.

[sweet224]

i think gender doesn't matter..

[Five1ofFun]

So relationship status does not matter? Is it ok to go out with the opposite sex where you do not include your GF/BF?

[Brandye]

Ok, fun, I smell a trap. We have had posters in the past who start with a simple question and then keep changing the rules. You have just made a tremendous leap from your original question to quite a different question. Now, there are many combinations and permutations of "additional considerations." What comes next (assuming someone plays the silly game with you)?

[Five1ofFun]

Its not a trap or a game. I'm Farly new to this and I honestly forgot to add the relationship aspect of the question. Its been on my mind so long that I thought it was implied and I truly did not want anyone to think I was playing a game. I will re-read my questions better next time. I have been looking for a board that has adults, not 14 year old kids like most. I have a real relationship and want real answers. I can not live long enough to make all mistakes on my own so I ask my peers. I hope this isn't how you treat all your newbies.

[pitter]

he majority of my friends are guys, and we play fight all the time.
if he seems to caress your arm or your side, or holds you a bit longer than he should,then yeah,he might like you.
but its probably just a brother-sister thing,especially since youre such good friends.

if youre still really worried or unsure, mention that someone who knows about you two wrestling thought it looked more like something people who are dating would do,and ask what he thinks.if you dont want to be with him,add that you feel its more like a sibling thing.see how he reacts.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by Five1ofFun

So relationship status does not matter? Is it ok to go out with the opposite sex where you do not include your GF/BF?

Yes, of course it is OK.

If the boy- girlfriend becomes insecure or jealous or states that you cannot talk to friends or have friends of the opposite gender, then there is bound to be trouble. In fact, when a guy, especially, begins controlling what you can or cannot do, see, talk to, etc., then this is where controlling behavior begins.

If a person is this insecure, then I would recommend a new boy- girlfriend who is more secure. There is absolutely positively no reason why a person cannot or should not have friends--and friends of both genders!

Friends are friends--not lovers. This is a leap that guys often cannot or do not make. The girl returns to you and as long as she does, there is no reason to question loyalty. The same is true for men.

The logic escapes me about why a woman or man believes that once s/he has "me" that "I" am all that person needs, therefore no friends. This is immature behavior.