Mental Health-Dealing with ones existance (or lack there of?)

[LickMyGamete]

Originally Posted by CleverName

Actually, another one of my fears is getting older. I think I would rather die in some epic way before I start to break down. I strongly believe in the old term "Better to burn out than fade away". I figure once I hit a certain age, I'll start doing things I might not otherwise do if I were concerned with living . For example, I am into surfing, so when I hit say.. 40 I want to start doing big wave surfing, not to put myself in danger, but to gain an experiance few ever will have. If I die doing that, thats ok with me, and a great way to be remembered (if only for a little while).

I think you might want to print that out and save it for a few years. Look at it when you're 40, have kids, a career, a marriage - then you'll realize how youth clouds judgment and why people say "young and foolish."

[EvilEvilKitten]

That's not what they say!
They say "young, dumb and full of cum".

[GreyShadow]

20 and fear of death?...odd, at that age most feel indestructable.

I've come near death, (not of my choosing) and it's had a profound effect on me.
I could tell you my tale, possibly gleem something useful, but I doubt if you'd really
be interested with all the responses I seen so far....

[EvilEvilKitten]

Reading Epicurus should help siince he does discuss why one should NOT fear death.

[CleverName]

"Get used to believing that death is nothing to us. For all good and bad consists in sense experience, and death is the privation of sense experience. Hence a correct knowledge of the fact that death is nothing to us makes the mortality of life a matter for contentment, not by adding a limitless time [to life] but by removing the longing for immortality. For there is nothing fearful in life for one who has grasped that there is nothing fearful in the absence of life. Thus, he is a fool who says that he fears death not because it will be painful when present but because it is painful when it is still to come. For that which while present causes no distress causes unnecessary pain when merely anticipated. So death, the most frightening of bad things, is nothing to us; since when we exist death is not yet present, and when death is present, we do not exist. Therefore it is relevant neither to the living nor the dead, since it does not affect the former, and the latter do not exist. But [most people] flee death as the greatest of bad things and sometimes choose it as a relief from the bad things of life. But the wise man neither rejects life nor fears death. For living does not offend him, nor does he believe not living to be something bad. And just as he does not unconditionally choose the largest amount of food but the most pleasant food, so he savours not the longest time but the most pleasant. He who advises the young man to live well and the old man to die well is simpleminded, not just because of the pleasing aspects of life, but because the same kind of practice produces a good life and a good death." [Epicurus, Letter to Menoeceus]

I did find this helpful. Thank you.

[EvilEvilKitten]

You're welcome.

[CleverName]

I just need get past the "getting used to" part in that first sentence. I think that's where I seem to be stuck.