Big deal?

[CegMister]

This is sort of dumb but Im just wondering. I have a small birth defect know as a pre-auricular pit. basically its a small pitt on my ear . its hardly noticeable and usually my hair is longer than it is lower. Only when i get buzz cuts can you see and and my friends who know of it dont really care. But I was just wondering would it bother you if you dated a girl/guy who had this? Also if your wondering what it is just search the name. I know im being a bit superficial but Im self-conscious of it.

[dancingdoc2]

I am so glad we are switching the focus from penis size and tilt.

I knew a woman who was concerned about an errant hair in her cleavage.

We all have some blemish or body characteristic that bothers us.

My answer is as it always has been: when a person falls in love with someone we accept him/her hook, line, and, sinker, including the parts as yet unseen. If you want to know how important this is to a girlfriend, let it show. If you don't care, let her discover it later, matter of factly. People with birth defects, and handicaps would no doubt consider this petty.

[bobert3]

It wouldn't bother me any. The girls I dated in my younger years I dated for their personalities, not their looks.

[CegMister]

thanks, it doesn't bother to much and I'am some what attractive but I'm not really comfortable with it. anyway thanks for the imput

[Ell]

I'm not really sure what a pre-auricular pit is, but I wouldn't worry to much about it. My hubby has a bad burn mark about the size of a quarter on his cheek. I was curious about it when we first met, but it never bothered as far as keeping me from going out with him. Most of the time I forget its even there, but people who would have a problem with something that insignificant are superficial & immature, so you wouldn’t want them anyways

[Brandye]

Pre-auricular pits are usually tiny irregularities where the top of the ear bends around and meets the skull (helix). They are formed during fetal development, are usually very small and generally are no problem. Sometimes they do become infected. If infection is chronic, the pit can be repaired surgically.

I suspect some of us have dated people with pits and we were not even aware. No big deal.

[dancingdoc2]

Yup! of all the things to focus on.... What about a prominent dimple?

There is a man in our Ballroom dance circle who was burned as a child. The only outward indication is that the hairline and skin texture on one side of his face is different than the other and missing a sideburn. He does wear long sleeve shirts and while I have not seen his torso, I've been told by people who have that his skin is as you'd expect a burn victim's to be. This does not prevent him from driving a fancy car and having a great girlfriend of long standing and being a fantastic dancer.

I met a young woman a few years ago who has CP and walks erratically on her tiptoes. She joked that she always "tiptoes through the tulips" and has a great man to "support her" (as she walks arm-in-arm with him).

Why not just refer to this blemish as a "beauty mark" and put it in the back of your mind? Thank goodness you did not ask about a concern over penis size!

Now, go put your best foot forward and take on the world!

[CegMister]

haha thanks

[weasel]

any girl that would be botherd by that aren't worth you time