He says hes not happy

[rosebanks]

So, in short i have been with my boyfriend since new year, although still a fairly new relationship, we get on well, we hug kiss cuddle, have great sex, spend time together, laugh smile, ive even got used to his constant farting, and yet, he said to me today hes just not happy, but he doesnt know why and doesnt see is in the long term...

i want to get him to give us a shot, get past the next couple of months (that are busy with him going to lots of stag doo's and weddings etc) but im not sure if he will, im completely head over heels with him... but... i dont know how to go about geting him to give us a shot...

could someone give me some insight into it? anyone gone through a similar situation and got through it?

someone please help, im really quite upset now il be devestated, heartbroken even if he breaks up with me.. i sacrificed alot to be with him.. and now.. i may have verry little when hes gone x

[Brandye]

Counting on the fingers of my left hand, that sounds like four months. Big deal. Why put more time or energy into a relationship that you know is going nowhere? We all fall once in a while but recover even faster.

Take the short term pain and know you are avoiding much greater pain down the road.

[nuttychick]

Not much you can do if he is unhappy.. Set him free and find yourself
someone else

[demonbuttercup]

Just be glad it's happening sooner than later.
My ex told me that... after 8 yrs!!!
I am still trying to get over it... especially the fact I moved to FL to be w/ him to begin with
So I am in the process of moving back to AL (since ALL my family still lives there) and having to find a new job at the worst time ever!

I say give him his "space" who knows... in a month or 2 he might just realize what he let go... and you guys can give it another shot... granted that you haven't met someone 10 times better lol

PS
Mine farts a lot too... is that just a guy thing or what?!?!? gross

[dancingdoc2]

The primary purpose for dating is to discover what humanity has to offer us in the way of potential mates. Dating does not begin and end with the first warm body who expresses an interest in us. Some dates last through a dinner or two, others longer, most quite a bit longer--yet if you are dating properly, all will fall by the wayside until Mr./Ms. Right comes into the picture.

If you are giving all your time and attention to one person and not "playing the field" and learning about other people, their characters, their goals, their ideals, their whims, their quirks, etc., etc. etc. then you are limiting your options.

If this guy is just not that into you, then get back into the game and continue to date--others!

[wet_suit_one]

Originally Posted by dancingdoc2

The primary purpose for dating is to discover what humanity has to offer us in the way of potential mates. Dating does not begin and end with the first warm body who expresses an interest in us. Some dates last through a dinner or two, others longer, most quite a bit longer--yet if you are dating properly, all will fall by the wayside until Mr./Ms. Right comes into the picture.

If you are giving all your time and attention to one person and not "playing the field" and learning about other people, their characters, their goals, their ideals, their whims, their quirks, etc., etc. etc. then you are limiting your options.

If this guy is just not that into you, then get back into the game and continue to date--others!

Amen brother!

[EvilEvilKitten]

You sacrificed a lot to be with him and now we see the result - he doesn't give a damn. You let him become LAZY by totally committing to him without demanding anything in return.

Have you learned anything yet?
Do you finally see why this romantic teenage hearts & flowers idea of relationships does NOT work?

This is precisely why you do NOT go exclusive before you are afianced.

Of course you will now leave this man who values you so little and will go off and build an independent and satisfying life of your own. You have no other option, that will let you have ANY self-esteem, available to you.

While he's away going stag - plan your escape.

[rosebanks]

thanks EEK, yeah ive learnt alot, and now, we are friends... although we don't speak much as its still do new.. i too am going away next week, for an entire week, so i am going to use that as a bit of getting over it all time!

[wet_suit_one]

BTW, farting is fun and relieves discomfort. Funny noises and comfort! What's not to like?