Marraige

[funinthesun]

and wow, while I can't stand Billy Squier's voice, that's a hard hitting song.

[sera300]

Thank you funinthesun...I do emphasize the negatives found within marriage often in threads due to the mess I ended up with. Too often people roam this board about what to do with a bad marriage. Often suggested by EEK, Brandye, and myself is; counseling, work it out, or divorce. Divorce sounds like the easiest option to those not there yet.

What is not heard [shall I say listened to] are the positive, wonderful aspects of marriage. One can even end their marriage with an inevitable divorce which really is very unfortunate; however, it does not by any means "don't do it", often what is being said is be certain "why you are doing it since love is not enough". When failure is eminent and neither is present in the marriage; depart on good terms.

If one fears financial loss as an assumed risk [prior independent wealth]? Get a good prenup since there are gold-diggers out there both men & women--leaving this to a court to decide is poor at best since equitable distribution of marital income is the last option of choice...NO ONE WINS! No even the spouse who is receiving it! Recall as you said many gave up their careers for the other and for the well being of a family; it's a temporary payment that does make any real significance to ones life...both loose. When there are premarital, separation property assets any good attorney shall encourage a prenup. A prenup cannot cut out a spouse either! It merely declares what is owned by both prior to the marriage & creates full disclosure of all finances. A prenup is a prearranged financial settlement agreed to by both [percentages] prior to the marriage. I do not see how one can "marry the one they love" to later wish them to live on the streets. Thank you for taking the time to read since I did have to learn a great deal to explain long ago!

And the Squire song is, well, a sad type of song...I wish Ducy woould see life can be worse since his life is just beginning!

With all this said; make your choices well, think, live life to it's fullest, and love. Never fear love! It's well worth the chance!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Marriage has its difficulties but think of the alternative - coming home, day after day, night after night - to an empty house. An endless round of dates with marginally satisfactory persons because most of those your age are married with or without children/grandchildren. A life perpetually on hold. And when your parents are gone, there are the holidays and so on to contend with.

Life alone can be rewarding if that is truly your choice but when it is not what you want - then it is a bleak a hell as the worst marriage.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Marriage has its difficulties but think of the alternative - coming home, day after day, night after night - to an empty house. An endless round of dates with marginally satisfactory persons because most of those your age are married with or without children/grandchildren. A life perpetually on hold. And when your parents are gone, there are the holidays and so on to contend with.

Life alone can be rewarding if that is truly your choice but when it is not what you want - then it is a bleak a hell as the worst marriage.

Ditto!!!!! I live it!

[wet_suit_one]

Is it a life on hold? Not entirely sure I agree with that. If you want a spouse, I suppose it is. However, given the relative scarcity of women of your caliber EEK, I don't know that it would be wise for anyone to sit on the sidelines of their own life waiting for someone to fulfill it.

For myself, the reason that marriage is out of the question is that I'm not worth marrying. I'm selfish, immature, sexually incompetent and just plain annoying! It's wisest for all involved if I just stay single and get my jollies by writing on boards like this, surfing porn, paying for play and seeking out wisdom here and there above the stars and below the earth. That's what I really want, wisdom, not some hot sizzlingly sexy woman to blow my mind, complete my soul and be my lifelong companion and source of happiness. I want wisdom, not all that other blather.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Methinks WSO protests too much. Give it a rest and get out there after stopping being annoying, sexually incompetent, immature, and selfish.