Why does the United States put the pressure on men when it comes to good sex.

[love2please]

Its actually not like this in other countries. They understand sex a whole lot better then us and don't have debates about the g-spots existence because they already discovered all the spots and positions lol. Why is our culture so dysfunctional when centered around sex? Look at porn for example. Im not gonna hate if thats what you like but alot of that stuff is based on rape fantasies (i have met women that asked me to roleplay rape scenes for them and denied it). Why is our psychological perception of sex in the States so dysfucntional?

[dancingdoc2]

The reason may have to do with our Puritan Ethic.

(Rent the movie: "The Road to Wellville")

[dlb]

The USA is both more advanced AND behind the rest of the world in personal and public acceptance of sexuality. And people who are interested in being better at sex and learning more about it certainly do have debates. I think I know what you mean though. The US does seem to harbor, still in the 21st century, an abundance of morés that have been to a certain degree overcome elsewhere.

I think Doc's suggestion of our Puritan past may be part of it. I always find it odd that when we think of the Massachusetts Bay Colonies we think of "sinners" being publicly exhibited in stocks and bonds, yet in modern day Mass. sex practices involving stocks and bonds may be deemed illegal. I have friends there who joke that a man can marry another man in that state, but he can't give him a spanking! Of course there were puritanical groups that settled other parts of the northeast, the mid-Atlantic and the South; Puritans were not confined to Mass.

Having traveled a more than the average American I have to say that it is difficult to say really whether the US is more repressed or more liberated sexually than other countries, but I think there is much to be learned from other companies.

[dancingdoc2]

And then there is the country's "Bible Belt" and fundamentalism.

[sera300]

External influences can also be promulgated by those with political agendas. Politicians are influenced through through their supporters and constituents who support their positions. This forces the religious views of a few upon nearly all in the US. No sex education, just teaching of abstinence leads to ignorance among the young who are taught sex is bad at a very young age. Hence, the fallout is women looking to men when they do become sexually active for "following/teaching".

Found this interesting:
http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/new...998/100198.htm

[dlb]

Nice link sera
I think it was the week that Sarah Palin was announced as McCain's running mate and her teen daughter's pregnancy was subsequently announced that I read an article comparing the USA with the rest of the "developed" world. One thing that sticks in my mind was that one of the Scandinavian countries, which is very open about sex education, has the highest percentage of sexually active teenage girls and the lowest teenage pregnancy rate. The United States on the other hand does the most to discourage teen sex and has the highest teen pregnancy rate.

My attitude as a parent has always been - I am not going to tell you not to do something that you are probably going to do anyway. But, if you decide that you want to do this here are some very important facts that you need to know and be aware of.

[sera300]

I agree. As a parent you may not care for your child's choice BUT you need to inform them & to teach them safe practices. Palin eloped and 8 months later her son was born; knowing this how can you now force her daughter's b/f into a marriage? For political purposes and to further her political agenda? Teaching abstinence does not work!

Meanwhile, all sex ed funding is cut here in the US by ultra conservatives and those in the bible belt, funding of Planned Parenthood suffers due to the economy since it's a non-profit organization. The potential to overturn Roe v. Wade is at risk and the right to choose to abort a child which is incompatible with life will be forced upon couples & women. These are not choices made randomly without thought among women.

People need to be aware of the politics and the constituents for election purposes. Hence, why separation of church & state should be held to the highest standards. After all, it must be a choice one or couples live with for life...prevention is key and the only way to obtain such is through education. This study demonstrated education caused those non-US couples to wait until older.

However, it's still a thought which is thought of as dirty. One is fortunate as a parent [or an individual] if pregnancy is the worse outcome since HIV is the real fear.

[dlb]

I have many friends and acquaintances who practice different brands of what is euphemistically referred to as alternative sexuality- gays, BDSMers, swingers, etc. I was talking with a well known bondage instructor about a year ago about the use of the term "lifestyle" in reference to BDSM. I won't go into the intricacies of the conversation, but this person asserted that it is indeed a lifestyle for him and proceeded to elaborate on the reasons. One thing I remember very clearly is that he said it affects the way he votes.

Now not every American is into alternative anything, much less alternative sex. But even if the kinkiest thing you do is make love naked with the lights on and the curtains drawn you should pay attention to what candidates say directly or imply about their beliefs and plans (if elected) regarding legislation that might affect your sexuality. It could be access to birth control, it might be medication or treatment of an illness.

Part of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness is sexuality. Think about it.

[sera300]

I agree if kink to some is limited to the curtains drawn with the LIGHTS on in your home; the party's beliefs ultimately strip the individuals rights.

This mentality scares me to death which is why I am going to the "dark side" and voting as a Democrat!

My greatest fear is the next President's influence over the bench of the supremes since there are two, potentially three, which stand a new appointment. The ability to overturn roe v. wade even with the issue was incest or rape is now being discounted as a woman's choice.

I wholeheartedly believe in individual rights; this past Regime has demonstrated an inability to objectively look at public choice issues.

An individuals choice may not reflect my personal ideology; however, it does not give the [lack of a right] to those who wish to live other than I choose to. I never thought I would feel this way!

[dlb]

Originally Posted by sera300

This mentality scares me to death which is why I am going to the "dark side" and voting as a Democrat!

Welcome to the "dark."