Why does the United States put the pressure on men when it comes to good sex.

[funinthesun]

Originally Posted by dlb

What stems from sex, women and people's fear of licentiousness? Americans' hangups?

I believe she was referring to "It all"

[EvilEvilKitten]

Everyone's hang-ups - not just America's.

[Gorgeous Mistake]

I disagree completely.

I hear guys all the time talk about how their partner was not good in bed. I even read it in Cosmo (if you don't know what this is, it is the ultimate women's magazine).

I've never met a woman who believes it is all up the man to make sex good. If anything because of the equality women have earned in America, they are blamed for equal responsibility. If a woman does not say what she wants, then she does not get what she wants, same goes for the man (unless they already learned).

I live in the United States... and I believe that your theory is absurd.

[EvilEvilKitten]

It all stems from the fragile male ego - yes, really. They always want to be assured that the children they are working to raise, and spending their resources on, are THEIR children and not some other man's. To be fair about this, women also want to know that ALL of their man's resources are being spent on HER children so she wants him, or his paycheck, all to herself.

There is twist to the woman's point of view however, since she can only have so many kids - she wants x's resources but she may want y's genetics. So, for women it makes biological sense to get pregnant by the best genes and then secure the best provider - which may involve more than one man.

Not so important for men since they can have lots of kids assuming they can secure lots of women and they're not terribly interested in raising any of them.

But biologically you're not successful until you're a grandparent - when your kids have their kids. And so on down the line.

That's the theory at any rate.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Most men and women have little to no idea how to have superb sex, hence this forum and others like it.

If only they'd read my book on the subject! *sigh*

[dlb]

You have a book? Can I get an autographed copy?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Probably not autographed but you can buy it at www.lulu.com/content/1232509

BTW somewhere on here, in response to a person's request, I posted a entire book list with the pertinent URLs.

[dlb]

will take looksee