Would you date my friend?

[Webby]

lol i don't know if this is the right place for this but if it's not, i have no problem deleting it.

My buddy, Zac, has confidence issues with himself. He has only dated one girl for a year in his life. He's 6'2" and about 280 lbs. I think he's very good looking but he thinks he can't ever get a girl and he's never gotten any second looks. He's a very nice guy with a great personality and I've almost considered dating him if I was single. He's got brown short, straight hair and brown eyes. He sports a goatee, lol i don't know how else to describe him.... But would anyone honestly think he's unnattractive because he is a bigger guy. (By no means is he overweight but he thinks differently.)
In general, my real question is, do physical features really rule over everything?

[Mr. Saint]

I am not a girl, but I am a large guy (and bi if it matters). I am about 6’1” 205 lbs. with very broad shoulders. Unfortunately for us large guys, big and strong in not really in fashion for guys these days. Skinny and gangly seems to be more of the fashion. I find that even if you are not the most attractive guy in the world, if you act with confidence, not cocky, but as a good genuine guy, the more mature women will look past your looks. I have dated women way out of my league simply because I am smart and not a complete prick.

[sera300]

Well, assuming I was near his age. If he had some confidence in himself, well built, I go for. Never cared for the skinny look; tend to go for the broad shoulder & muscular men...and well those with hair. Must have a brain.

In short, if I was your age & he had confidence; I would.

[constantlylearning]

I am not female either but will make a general comment. If you stop and
look around (at everyday people moving about) and notice that couples
come in all shapes and sizes. Some larger men with smaller women, larger
women with smaller men, etc. So, it probably comes down to the personality
and charm as much as anything (IMO). Having said that, we all as individuals
have our own preferences (I am assuming). I have always been a fairly short
person (6'1") with moderate weight 192 but always tended to like the more
athletic/slim women. I have a good friend who is much taller but for some
reason has always dated or been in relationships with very short ladies in the
low 5 foot range. Again, I would not generalize so much and be more concerned
about the person in question.

[goof'schik]

CL I don't think 6'1" is short for a guy, then again I am a 5'2" (almost) female. I know a singles website, for any and all. I don't want to get in trouble for posting it but it is also free so here goes. www.plentyoffish.com. I know a few of my friends have either used it, or are using it.
He can email back and forth, post a picture and a profile and see what he kind of response he gets. If he is upbeat and happy he will get responses. I had a 4 year relationship with a man who's dr was after him to have gastric bi-pass, 6'4" and over 500 pounds, for me it's not what is on the outside it's the inside.

[constantlylearning]

Well, I suppose that is a matter of opinion.....LOL

[lnt1103]

I agree totally that what's inside matters much more than what's outside.

Having said that, I've got this thing for arms and shoulders. And eyes, actually. I'm 5'6" dating a stocky guy that's 6'4" or so. He's adorable, very muscular arms and shoulders (he's an athlete), with the best blue eyes I think I've ever seen. But more than that, he's honest, caring, considerate, and has the best sarcastic sense of humor I think I've ever encountered. And I first met him online, so it was of course his personality that drew me to him. Even though he's a great looking guy (and half the time I want to cut that arm off and take it with me-it's mine! LOL), it's WHO he is, not WHAT he looks like or HOW he's built, that has me moving 180 miles after a year of dating to live with him.

[Tao]

Lol, you can stick a cork in the whole '6 foot is short' thing.

Try being 5'7". I think I've finally figured out why I have random desires to conquer half of europe.

[Rowan26]

Ohh he sounds like what my boyfriend looks like. Well cept for the whole CrossDressing thing Anywho looks are not what is important to me. The first thing I notice is if the person has a good sense of humor. If they can make me laugh then it is a go to get to know them better. Tell your friend to hang in there and just be himself cause when he meets the right woman she will see him for who he is and love him for it.

[constantlylearning]

Well, I suppose 6'1" is tall in some circles and short in others. For example,
6'1 is on the short side for an NBA Center............follow? LOL