Drastic Changes

[Ducy]

So what is it about the 3 months of summer between high school and college that makes people change sooo much? My ex girlfriend (just decided we woul rather be fwb) said that she was fine with her sex life, and talked to people about us. Well now she is mad at me and its because I told my friend stuff that I WANTED to do, and now its being spread around high school saying that its what we have done (and its stuff that she is against).

Now how come you can say something to a high schooler and it gets twisted and changed and spread like wildfire? Yet you can tell someone in college and nothing. I mean unless someone has a picture it doesnt go anywhere. It dies with who you told it to.

Now I have almost 4 people who hate me over something that was tweaked and made into a rumor. Plus one who hates me because I told someone about our sex life (yet 3 of her friends no)

[sera300]

It's called beginning to grow up. In HS, many play and are childish...when struck with a new beginning of uncertainty, cut from their daily HS attendance? They try to seek adulthood behavior---it's a shock experience for many facing seperation from the fallback people. Hit College? Still kids, trying but they try to keep a bond to their former life or GF...ends (these relationships) about Thanksgiving...why? separated and they see a whole new group of those who have more of a shared interest. I watch it every year at College!!!! Many are exploring what they wish to do or be in their lives and this takes different forms--generally does not match up with the past.

[Ducy]

It just sucks though I mean. Im the one at fault for the stuff being spread around because I told 1 person. Not 5, not 10, just 1. And now I have lost some of the closest people in my life. Basically everyone who was like a family to me is gone.

Which sucks a great deal as you can imagine.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Ducy

It just sucks though I mean. Im the one at fault for the stuff being spread around because I told 1 person. Not 5, not 10, just 1. And now I have lost some of the closest people in my life. Basically everyone who was like a family to me is gone.

Which sucks a great deal as you can imagine.

They were never true friends...just acquaintances.... Learn from it! True friends are hard to come by....and stay the duration.

[Ducy]

Yea I guess your right. But then again, some of the stuff we knew about each other was not something "acquaintances" would tell each other. Plus its been damn near 10 years since I first met them so...yea...definitely worse than getting dumped by a lover

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Ducy

Yea I guess your right. But then again, some of the stuff we knew about each other was not something "acquaintances" would tell each other. Plus its been damn near 10 years since I first met them so...yea...definitely worse than getting dumped by a lover

True friends stand beside you always...at least you get to see who to trust and to keep close. Generally you find the same during a divorce...who are your friends.

[Ducy]

Doesnt make me wish they were here any less though. I mean. I just...aye yi yi

[basic]

Not to sound harsh or anything, but once you leave high school chances are you won't see your high school friends too much and you will just slowly drift apart. Now this is obviously not the case all the time, but more often than not it is.

[Ducy]

I know that. I mean I lost a lot of friends from 8th to 9th grade. And same when I graduated. But friends I manage to see all the time. Even though we are in different levels. I dont even see why Im so much at fault. (the only guilty party) I mean I told someone yes, but do you really have to always say. Dont Tell Anyone! If your friend said dude I had sex with my girlfriend would you think. Hmmmm lets go tell everyone! I know I wouldnt...yet Im the only one at fault and I am dragging innocent people (people I told) into the mix.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Ducy

I know that. I mean I lost a lot of friends from 8th to 9th grade. And same when I graduated. But friends I manage to see all the time. Even though we are in different levels. I dont even see why Im so much at fault. (the only guilty party) I mean I told someone yes, but do you really have to always say. Dont Tell Anyone! If your friend said dude I had sex with my girlfriend would you think. Hmmmm lets go tell everyone! I know I wouldnt...yet Im the only one at fault and I am dragging innocent people (people I told) into the mix.

Ducy...don't get caught up in all the drama...you are allowing yourself to, drags you to the same level of maturity despite being ticked off.