what does this this mean

[kiwigirl]

about 10 months ago, i got an e-mail from someone who i still care about but no longer see (he decided that he didn't want a long distance relationship)as he lives in another country and is living with someone else wanting to watch me on my webcam but i told him that the programme had been taken off as the computer had crashed about a week earlier. three days later i get a text from him saying that he wanted pictures of me in certain positions that we had talked about doing and only he knew, but as he work mobile was not compatable with mine, it couldn't be done. a few weeks later i asked him about it, he said denied it and said it wasn't him and that i shouldn't worry about it. But only he knew i had the webcam and about those positions. then about two months ago i sent him an innocent e-mail and got a reply which i was not expecting. he wanted a video of me and he was quite keen to have it sent to him that morning, unfortunately i was at work and was not expecting him to make such a request. this is where it got a bit confusing for me i thought he wasn't with this current partner but apparently is still with her.

Does it mean that in someway he still wants me but can't have me or is he just playing with my emotions as i DO still have feelings for him after all this time and miss him.

OR do i challenge him about it when i go on holiday in a few months as i would like to do it face to face and try and get some answers out of him.

any advice would be appreciated.

Kiwigirl

[cyclefreak]

That sounds dodgy to me, I'd be very careful. How well do you know this person? Have you ever met in person?

[kiwigirl]

we met nearly two years ago when i went on holiday after he contacted me on an online dating site that we both use (he's hidden his profile on this site but is still a member as he's in my favourites file on this site and i check it on a regular basis) and i'm still visible on this site. i thought i knew him as we would talk nearly every night before and after the weekend we spent together and i always seemed to find out a bit more as we talked

[cyclefreak]

It just doesn't sound right to me. I gather from what you are saying that he is asking either for sexually explicit videos of you, or videos of you naked (please correct me if I've got that wrong). It certainly seems a bit suspicious that he only contacts you in order to request a video, then denies that he did that.

I could be wrong about this, but it might be that your feelings for this guy are misplaced. Its an odd request that he made, and it sounds to me like he might be trying to manipulate you, using the feelings you have for him.

I can see you have doubts about him, so don't let your emotions cloud your judgement. My suggestion would be to break it off with him, but if you do decide to see him, then I would certainly think you should challenge him about it, and see how he reacts.

[oedipussy]

MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE. This guy is manipulating you and you're letting him. Apparently he sees you as porn on request. From now on - Don't send this guy pictures or videos, don't answer him when he contacts you, and don't go visit him. Change your phone number if you have to. He's dead to you. Simple as that.

Meet someone else... NOW.

[sera300]

I agree w/both below as far as your feelings are misplaced & you are making poor choices (pictures). Move on and leave it; never do such a thing again.

[Browser]

Creeper.
Don't let him contact you any more.

[Brandye]

He is not interested in you; he is interested in a photo collection. I can guarantee that they will end up on some grungy site somewhere.

[nuttychick]

lol Kiwigirl don't be a fool find yourself a nice kiwi fella forget about this other guy he is a user.

psst what part of NZ are you in?

[cyclefreak]

Actually, I agree now with oedipussy and everybody else. Ditch this guy and and have nothing more to do with him. The way he contacted you is an insult, and he is just trying to manipulate you for his own purposes. If you keep on with him you are going to get hurt. He's not worth it.