I want to say something

[KMB]

I want to post in a lot of the threads in here only don't know really what to say yet. I'm very interested in what people talk about here. It's very useful too.

I don't want to say something stupid.

and one more thing

I have become a great fan of this forum, I've been thinking maybe I could show my boyfriend this.

and I'm greatful for all the help and advice I get.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by KMB

I want to post in a lot of the threads in here only don't know really what to say yet. I'm very interested in what people talk about here. It's very useful too.

As of this writing you have posted 120 times. Sounds like you do have something to say. There are two general types of posts; first, the question, or concern; second, the reply to someone's question or concern.

If you have #1, find the most appropriate forum for the topic and then state it in as clear and concise manner as possible. Do not worry about whether a question is stupid or silly because if it weighs on your mind then it is important and that is all that really matters.

I don't want to say something stupid.

If you have #2, then think about your reply and try and keep it from being silly or stupid. It is a good thing to attempt a knowledgeable response that contributes meaningful information. If you are uncertain about the relevance of a reply, better hold off until others provide a baseline of information.

and one more thing I have become a great fan of this forum, I've been thinking maybe I could show my boyfriend this. I'm greatful for all the help and advice I get.

When you think about the purpose of this Board and its Forums, it is to advance the "cause" and the knowledge level and skill set of those who wish to become more than who they are. We learn from each other, from a lifetime of accumulated knowledge, from experience, from books; and, we pay it forward.

Thank you for the kudos and kind words. We try.

[Ducy]

Dont worry about what others think KMB...I mean sure every once in a while someone asks a totally stupid question (i.e. my fantasy question that I feel will get torn up ) But its fine...I mean in reality there is no such thing as a stupid question when it comes to learning (although someone seems to break that rule)

[KMB]

alright, I just don't want others judging me for saying something wrong especially in the wrong thread.

and of course I don't really know what to say most of the time although I do wish to help cause I havn't been to everything a lot of people have done.

Of course when me and my boyfriend have sex I'm sure I will know more and post right. Of course I won't have sex to post on a forum LOL

sorry I'm just saying.

[-wittyphrasehere-]

Originally Posted by KMB

alright, I just don't want others judging me for saying something wrong especially in the wrong thread.

and of course I don't really know what to say most of the time although I do wish to help cause I havn't been to everything a lot of people have done.

Of course when me and my boyfriend have sex I'm sure I will know more and post right. Of course I won't have sex to post on a forum LOL

sorry I'm just saying.

It's good to be cautious, but you don't owe anything to anyone here. If you have something worth saying, say it.
Think out your posts, don't write out of emotion, and if you say something wrong then admit it and reconcile. People here are generally friendly and enlightened, you shouldn't have many problems.
Enjoy your stay here.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by KMB

alright, I just don't want others judging me for saying something wrong especially in the wrong thread.

If you have thought through the question or reply and do not always make an emotional response then most statements will be accepted or discussed which often helps shed more light on a topic. If a topic is posted in the wrong thread we have moderators who will kindly move the thread if necessary.

and of course I don't really know what to say most of the time although I do wish to help cause I havn't been to everything a lot of people have done.

We need all the help and varied insight and experiences we can get; yet having said that, it is also necessary that each of us pays our dues by first learning and acquiring both knowledge and experience. At 17, you have your whole life ahead of you in which to acquire these things and then to share them with those individuals who discover the site and join our community after you.

This reminds me of a time before there was a World Wide Web. While there was an Internet, that was mostly used by universities and government agencies, it wasn't until shortly after you were born that the WWW came into being and integrated the three separate facets of the net, and gave it a graphic interface. This made it possible to use the "information super highway" as a combination dictionary, encyclopedia, advertising media, and warehouse knowledge bank.

In those days communities often had electronic bulletin boards that were sometimes tied to others around the country. Our computer club had one mainly for communication among members. When I discovered that forums on various subjects were available I prevailed upon the moderator to subscribe. One of the first ones I joined was a forum on making bread using an Automatic Bread Machine. I had just purchased a machine and was getting varied and mostly poor results and did not know why. For the first year I just read the questions and answers others posted as well as the recipes people contributed. After some months had passed I began modifying recipes to suit me and tried to improve others--like making real pizza bread instead of settling for white bread flavored with pizza sauce!!

It didn't take long before I had accumulated some successful recipes and began posting them in order to share. I was already teaching for a local Parks and Recreation department so asked the staff if I could teach a class on bread-making using an ABM. The idea was to compile and hand out a list of recipes that were representative of what could be made and to be used as a base line for further experimentation and creativity. In addition, I wrote a booklet that described all the common problems people had with the machines and how to solve them using the Q&A information gathered from a years worth of reading the forum. Samples of about seven different breads were available in class to taste during the break. For a time the class was so popular that I taught it in two additional departments in nearby cities.

After a few years ABM usage subsided as people became more health conscious and wanted low carb breads. I didn't have any recipes and could not locate any. Only a few days ago I found a bunch that others had (finally) posted on the net. I am trying some and plan to adapt some of my popular recipes. I have approached the department about possibly doing another series of three hour workshops every couple of months beginning in the summer. So, who knows what will happen.

I'm telling you this story, K, because I want you to know that whether the knowledge and experiences shared are about bread or love and relationships, ya gotta get educated somehow, first. In my case with the latter, I have let it be known that I am simply a well-read lay person with years of accumulated knowledge and experiences to share and pay forward. Sometimes I provide information that is incorrect and I get called on it. I learn, and pay it forward.

Of course when me and my boyfriend have sex I'm sure I will know more and post right. Of course I won't have sex to post on a forum LOL.

Begin by reading as much as you possibly can on the topics of love, romance, interpersonal relationships, and, sex in all its varied forms. Read each of the articles listed in the Index until you know the information backwards and forwards. Read Brandye's favorite sex manual "The Joy of Sex", and any others that you find of interest. Do not overlook the articles available through the site's Home Page. Avail yourself of the Google and Ask.com search engines and find other websites that have encyclopedic knowledge to share.

As for relationship information, go to the library and locate books on the subject. Two authors who have written much are Dr. Laura and Dr. Phil. There are many other very knowledgeable professionals who have books that will help you help yourself and others. Ya just gotta read and devote some time and effort.

If you want to become a sexpert, then check out these sites:

www.jackinworld.com

http://members.optusnet.com.au/~austbua/

http://www.scarleteen.com/

http://womenshealth.about.com/cs/sex...raltruthin.htm

http://www.sexetc.org/

http://www.talksexwithsue.com/index2.html

http://www.the-penis.com/

http://www.the-clitoris.com/

I hope this long-winded reply will be of help to you and others who want to join in and contribute. Hang in there! Before you know it, you will have the background to work with people coming up through the ranks who will be where you are now. You'll be able to add your unique approach and perspectives to problems making the SI101 site even better!

-doc

[KMB]

Thanks so much

I have some books on Love,Friendship and Dating and I have 2 books on great sex I would love to get more that are really good advice.

Hey Doc I posted something in Thinking of Sex in New to Sex I tried PMing you but couldn't

[machine_rat]

Originally Posted by KMB

I don't want to say something stupid.

and one more thing

I have become a great fan of this forum, I've been thinking maybe I could show my boyfriend this.

Even if you knowingly and accidentally say something stupid, there's always the EDIT button. Besides, I would rather read something that sounds naieve than to read something that is close-minded and ignorant.

Are you shy about showing this site to your boyfriend and/or unsure as to how he'll respond? It wasn't until a few weeks after joining that I finally showed this site to my wife. I was afraid that she would get the wrong idea that this was some sort of generic sex chatroom.