Apologizing

[Ducy]

Ok so I really need some help....you see I experimented with oral with my first girlfriend....I then told my second girl (current) that I have never done anything....this then led to me feeling really guilty (since I always want honesty) and I told her that I had done oral...Now she is uber upset....I mean she at least wants to work past it, but she doesnt wanna talk to me right now...(or for a few days as she said)....The worst part though is that she is having trouble believing I love her....

Does anyone have any advice on how to help this situation....(aside from jumping off a cliff ) I mean I had a really good reason why....(no it wasnt some pointless excuse...it was an honest to god good reason)....But now IDK what to do...

[sera300]

Tell her the truth...AND NEVER DISCUSS PAST PARTNERS EVER AGAIN. See why? And heck why is she so upset? B/c you lied or had oral with another??? Seems pretty petty to me.

[Ducy]

Well sera I did tell her the truth and she is mad cuz I lied...I had told her that I NEVER did anything and I promised....She even asked me on a few occasions...but I mean my reason was really good

[demonbuttercup]

and what reason was that? LOL

[Ducy]

Well basically it was cuz when I dated my first girlfriend, my self esteem was non existent, I was dealing with rumors at high school (being gay cuz I could hang out with attractive woman and keep it in my pants) and basically a manipulative mentally abusive cuz If I didnt do something I was threated to be dumped. (and was afraid people would think I was gay.)

So I agreed to oral, had trouble getting it up, and I was terrified cuz I hated my body (plus I stepped way past my boundaries) So then after being made fun of that night by her, She went to tell the whole school and basically everybody knew that I wasnt hung like a horse (but I never said so lol) and that I couldnt get it up....

Extremely humiliating which is why I never wanted to tell her. (and why I was uncomfy when it came to being sexual with my current girl)

[demonbuttercup]

Geesh... that is a good reason :P
I remember you telling us about hooking up w/ that chick and then her saying all that crap at school the next day. I didn't think she was technically your g'f...just a fling.
Does your new girl not go to your school I am guessing??

You didn't do anything w/ the chick that was abused and had so many problems... right?
Is she the one that turned "gay"... didn't another girl? ahhhh so confused lol

Ducy... you've had so many g/f's lately... it's hard for me to keep track

I guess you should have told your new g/f that yea you experimented w/ it a little but it was a bad scene... so you'd rather not think about it... and like Sera said... she shouldn't have been asking anyhow!

[Ducy]

okay...lets put it this way


Ive had 2 girlfriends....first was 18 i was 15 (she is the one I tried oral with) my current one is the abused one. yes we did get back together...(she has been to some counseling and has straightened out a lot of issues....she is the angered one) the hook up chicks are irrelevant right now...(she knows but doesnt care cuz I was honest)

[demonbuttercup]

Hay dios mio!!!
Ok... so you are back w/ her... see you didn't tell us that... or if you did in another post.. I totally missed it.

So yea this is tricky since she's so sensitive about everything anyways.
But you guys are doing stuff now? but didn't before?

[Ducy]

yea....we are sexually active (more so than before we got back together)

[demonbuttercup]

Gotcha... ok well I sure don't know how to fix this one
I am sure Sera will be able to sort it all out