This just sounds weird to me...

[JOshua]

In mid november a friend of mine was returning from her trip to China.
I'll admit it I liked her.
About a week later one of my other friends and her started dating.
I sulked for an evening and got over it.
about a week and a half later they got engeged...
He's 25 and She's 23.
He works at like a gas station. And she just graduated.
I'm sorry at this point it just seems crazy and it more drives me crazy that they are getting married so quickly. (April '08)
They try to say that it's God's will and they're meant for each other.
It seems more like horemones than divine revalation.
And it seems more like despiration than faith (if they were meant to be wting a year for the honeymoon phase wouldn't hurt)

At this point many of you may be thinking that I'm just jealous b/c I'm not the guy..
NO it's b/c they just are completely flying in the face of reason (I plan to have a 2 year dating time before proposing, it just seemed responsible)

Anyways, it just seems really weird.

[Cherry Cheesecake]

I would tend to agree with you, it doesn't seem as though they would know each other well enough to take that step but they are both adults and able to make the decision. They want to screw up what they have by rushing things, that's their business.

[sera300]

See how it plays out...they may change their minds and if not, as stated they are adults capable of making their own choices. In the end, yes it is odd, they set their own destiny---good, bad, or indifferent. People do all sorts of things as this for stranger reasons driven by a longing for companionship. Perhaps their choice will work out and if not they will learn the hard way, unfortunately.

I have a friend which recently married both are older in their late 30's; asked how is married life? All is well? They reside separately down the road---go figure.

[constantlylearning]

I think that with "matters of the heart" there really are no "plans" that
seem to hold true in every scenario. That is probably a good thing or
life would be TOO BLAND (in my opinion).

[machine_rat]

How long have the two of them known eachother?

What was she doing in China, mission work? I can understand how the religous thing can be a factor in their decision to get married. My wife goes to a biblical college, and says that couples that meet there tend to get married very quickly. It's all about them presuming that just because they met someplace religous, that it MUST be the will of God... and wouldn't be if they met anywhere else.

Well, if your willing to wait a couple years, you can be the rebound guy when their marriage dissolves.

[JOshua]

actually for reasons that I don't know, they broke up BEFORE the wedding..

[constantlylearning]

Well................sort of curious to know if things ever came back around
for the OP. Sometimes when you really love somebody it's better to let them
go and remember the best of the time you spent together. In the end, letting
go maybe the truest measure of love. It might leave you to wonder if you have
done all that you could do or that maybe there was more you could have done to
make things different. Never forget the good times and hold those close
to your heart and who knows once you let go----maybe that love will oneday
come back to you. Let us know how things are.

[yuw]

confused:LIKE HELLO GUYS i am in luv with this hunk but he is a play boy.but ever since he met me he claims he has changed but he still goes round dating other girls but its not as if he doesn't tell me that he does but iam scared that in that process he might find someone else. but my friends tells me i am a lucky girl and that he has changed and he is really in luv with me iam confused

[yuw]

LIKE HELLO GUYS i am in luv with this hunk but he is a play boy.but ever since he met me he claims he has changed but he still goes round dating other girls but its not as if he doesn't tell me that he does but iam scared that in that process he might find someone else. but my friends tells me i am a lucky girl and that he has changed and he is really in luv with me iam confused