Masturbation and Emotions

[rackyranger]

Im an indian male. 26 yrs of age. My problem has been that I have had a few failures in my career. Owing to such failures I haven't been able to get the woman of my aspirations. But I hope to get one loving woman somewhere in the future, even if its a bit late in my life,.
I am also habitual of masturbation, and do it quite frequently.And I know that masturbation has no negative impact upon health.
But there is an emotional problem which is haunting me for quite some time. I feel like a loser. I mean its a feeling that when I have not achieved anything in my career so far, no woman will come near me, and masturbation is the only way to get rid of my sexual tension, And on the other hand i feel that Wen there is no woman in my life; isn't masturbation the sign of a loser, cos i haven't have any woman so far.
Should I stop masturbation unless i get some real woman in my life, or is it normal to keep masturbating? im really perplexed :-S

[dancingdoc2]

Masturbation is a continuous ongoing activity. The male of the species masturbates primarily for these reasons:
* To relieve pent up stress and sexual tension
* For the pure enjoyment of it all

Both are separate and apart from achieving a climax through lovemaking even though the net results are the same.

Masturbate as frequently as you want. If you try to do it more times a day than your body can tolerate, your system will simply "cry uncle" and refuse to respond for several hours. In order to fully recharge your body, you have to wait 24-48 hours. Of course you can masturbate sooner, however, subsequent climaxes will be weaker and less enjoyable.

This leads us to the next situation we must contend with--management. You can choose to endure a certain increase in stress in order to have a more powerful climax, later; or, you can relieve the degree of pent up stress at the expense of having a powerful orgasm by masturbating sooner rather than later.

It has been stated that 90% of the male population masturbates and the other 10% lie about it. That being the case, how can doing it be the sign of a looser?

> I feel like a loser. I mean its a feeling that when I have not achieved anything in my career so far, no woman will come near me

What follows is a thread that I've been responding to for the past couple of days. Please read through it and substitute esteem and confidence for looser.

http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/marr...nt_so_bad.html

[Newtolove]

well I don't know about indian society but career for me is separate to love but we live in different societies, you just have to get over your feelings about yourself what ever you are from your societies point of view you have equal right to love and happiness, there can be very successful men that care nothing for their wife/girlfriend and so called lossers that really are great people and caring lovers