Confused

[otter373]

My wife, before we were married, and before I knew her, had an affair with a married man. She was single, he was married. He would actually have her fly down once a week, and he had his fun. She thought he would leave his wife...but we know how this story ends. Well eventually my wife left him, when she found out he was about to have a child with his wife.

I don't know why...90% of me knows this guy is scum, and will be lucky if I don't slug him with a baseball bat, because all the men out there know he was just using her for sex. Here is the confusing part..why is it 10% of me is aroused of the thought of another man doing my wife. My wife is sweet, but in bed, she can be very expressive. Unusual for an Asian woman?? Don't know...she was my first, and still my only. I have no intentions of cheating either. Nor do I want to swing.

I would never never do this. Trust me..it is just in my mind. But I fantasized about contacting the former guy, and letting him know when to contact my wife when I am not home. And I have a fantasy of my wife moaning under another guy. I guess I think it would be him, because I know she would not just sleep with a stranger.

Look..I won't ever follow up on this fantasy. Trust me I love my wife, I don't think of her as an sex object. Without her my life would be empty, so I would never call him up. I just like seeing my wife happy.

Just wondering, do any of you guys out there fantasize a little about your wife being with their ex?

[mormegil]

cant say that i do i hate the idea of my gf being with her ex and after a relationship finishes it hurts me even more to think of her with someone else even if it was just for one night but i spose everyone has there different fantasies i dont think its weird or anything its just one of those things that crosses ur mind