Need Help Bad!!!

[BCS22]

ineedsahelp I understand everything that has been said to you but i have just a little bit more imput, I am twenty now and my first time was probably around sixteen, with the guy I am married to now but I know you guys discussed it but a little from her side may be that when you discussed it she felt that in order to keep you happy she had to agree to take that next step? If so the distance and keeping apart from her could be seen as you used her to "get some" and now that things are getting difficult you are bailing? but I also agree that you to are way to young to be making any type of commitment, so maybe try just being there for her as a friend until you both have had time to understand whats going on and where to go from there?

[SexySass69]

I also would look at your actions as saying that you got what you wanted and are now moving on. Because of the father, you shouldn't try to continue being her boyfriend, but you can still be sociable. You need to explain yourself, I am sure that if you were to write her a letter, even her father would respect that you were clearing the air for everyone to move on.

Good luck.

[fabian_haas]

i dont like the way people think that maturity will make everything better, it's like telling people they need more experience then not letting them get it. how old do you have to be to be "mature"? 40?? i know 14 sounds young but jeeze she's not 3 she knows the ropes and she know's what shes doing. as for you keeping in touch, i agree that you should remain friends and let her know that you are not going to be her bf for a while at least, so things can blow over. i just don't get how 4 years between 14 and 18 manage to mean soo much. age is all a mind over matter, if you dont' mind it doesn't matter as quoted by mark twain and i believe that you need to remain loyal to her but with a friend statis.

by the way i dont' mean to step on toes with the maturity thing but i have had alot of personal problems in the past and i have had to listen to how i'm not mature and how a couple of years will magically make me more mature and i get rather frustrated with it probably cuz i'm not "mature".

[bdfs05]

Originally Posted by LittleFury

I would have reacted worse. Any boy that would have sex with my 14 year old daughter would be staring at the barrel of my gun, and told if he contacts her again, he'll be staring at the bullet coming out of that barrel.
My first time was at 19. And I would say you shouldn't wait for her. At 17, you still got your whole life ahead of you. Go out and experiences it. Both of you will change so much in the next few years. What happens if you wait and you don't like the person she becomes?

why so angry? at least he actually likes her and is just not trying to **** her.

[the_moth]

after recently being in a similar situation,sexysass makes a point,if your public enemy no.1 with the family, move on,they'll be other girls out there you'd like just as much

[LittleFury]

Originally Posted by bdfs05

why so angry? at least he actually likes her and is just not trying to **** her.

Angry? No, just protective. Any parent should be concerned if some boy is having sex with their 14 year old child. Something that you will learn when you get older, just as I did.

[Brandye]

There are 14 year old girls who are obviously ready physically; I have never know a 14 yo girl who handled the emotional side well. Try sweating out your period every month when pregnancy would be a disaster. I am not a mother but I would stand with Fury.

[Lucky_13]

i remember when i was 14 and my period was still irregular, 30-32 day cycle, and even though i'd never even HAD sex, i would freak out that i was pregnant if i was a couple days late. i can't imagine being active and being a couple days late... i would be having a nervous breakdown, considering i have never wanted children and don't see that changing anytime soon.

while i admit to having fantasies about slightly underage (14-15 definately no younger!) girls being with older (sometimes in their 20's) guys and write erotica about it for my own personal pleasure, i do think 14 is far too young for sex in the real world, and i don't think kids that age have the emotional stability or knowledge about themselves to be having sex. the whole point of the teenage years is to explore oneself and to figure out who you are and who you want to be, and throwing someone else and a relationship into the mix i think is just too much pressure.

dating in the younger teen years should just be for fun, and i think its sad when kids take it so seriously and base their lives, their emotions, and themselves on who they are with someone else, and not who they are as their own person. i think it leads to an identity crisis and people who don't know how to behave when not in a relationship.