Porn Addict

[Red Cap]

I am porn addict. i want to get rid of it.but i can't.watching all these
pics everyday...i even had installed content filter and set password on
firewall settings...it wouldn't help.. cuz then i use password recovery tools
it is real addiction i can't control myself....
any solutions?

[dancingdoc2]

Do something else to occupy your time.
When you sit down at the computer or TV, where ever you are getting the info, simply tell yourself to stop and to search elsewhere or turn the equipment off. I am of the school that says if you want to change your ways, begin changing your ways. No need for years of therapy; however, for this to work, you have to be aware that you are indeed sitting down to watch and it is then that you change the behavior. All to often people are unaware until after they do whatever it is they don't want and then just say "oh well" and continue. Dieting is the same way. People go out to to the kitchen to raid the refrigerator during a TV commercial and aren't even fully conscious of the fact until after eating whatever it was they got and ate it--then they say to themself--self, why didn't I stop, or a dialog to that effect.

You can do this, you just have to decide to and not give in or let your subconscious mind rule your actions.

[tbryson2]

I too was addicted to porn. I never realized what damage it was doing to my relationship with my wife. Our physical relationship was poor because of what MY addiction was doing to HER. I wasn't getting satisfied, and neither was she. I finally realized that she could never be like "them", look like "them", act like "them". Some men, (I suppose), leave their spouses or g/f because of this. For me, my addiction to porn GREW because of this, and I didn't even realize it. My decision was that my wife and our relationship was more important than wacking off to some (in)-decent pictures! This is the catalyst that turned me around!

I got rid of most of my magazines, (this was before the internet), and (taking my wifes suggestion), I took all of my favorite pictures out of the magazines and put them in one photo album. This narrowed it down to only one book. Then someone broke into my house and stole that a few months later!

I made the decision then not to replace it. BE AWARE I DID go through some "withdrawal" symptoms. It was not easy. But our relationship was healing up and eventually got much better.

I do look at porn on the computer now, and can say I'm "addicted" to it again. Difference is that my wife does not mind that much about it now. She is fairly "liberal" and sees that it is only an outlet for me, especially when she is on her period, or out of town... I also have to use caution that I do not allow it to run away with me again.

She has her toys, and she sees that "porn" is my "toy". I also do not get into hard core porn. I know she appreciates that. I like soft to moderate porn. In fact, the right kind of porn spices things up a bit!

If you really want to quit, my advice is that you just gotta suck it up and quit. (This is coming from a former US Marine!) Don't buy anything new to replace what you get rid of. I know it's tough. It took some time for me to get over it. Just like a drug addict. Again, be aware that you will want to fill that void with something. Decide now what you want that to be. Make it something positive. Get a hobby. I use to hear a statement that says, "Idle hands are the Devils playground!" That statement is very accurate!

Hope this helps!