Fetish...?

[a.m.h.i.]

This is more of a linguistic question than anything else, but whatever. What exactly constitutes to a fetish? This is kind of embarassing, frankly, but whenever I hear an English accent - there are many different kinds, I know, but I'm equally attracted to them all - I immediately become totally sexually aroused. As a matter of fact, it works for all British accents, although I've found not so much with Australian accents, even though they're similar. I've heard "fetish" defined as a sexual fixation with either an inanimate object or a part of the body, but do accents count, too? I have no idea why such a trivial thing makes me so aroused. It kind of bothers me, frankly; whenever I meet a British person it's difficult to keep my mind on whatever we're talking about -- I can't stop thinking about how much I want to have sex with them!

So what would you call it? And does anyone else have it? Because I feel kind of silly. I've met other girls who tell me they like British accents, but I don't think they like them the same way I do, hhaha.

PS - Please excuse my ignorance and such. I'm young. ; )

[WallyLlama]

I suspect there's a certain amount of "training" that takes place unconsciously... much like Pavlov's dogs who salivated when the bell rang, we tend to develop automatic responses to certain stimuli. Now if you could only make it with Brits, that might qualify as "fixation." LOL

Ignorance is smart; we should always recognize what we don't know.

I'd suggest you get curious and delve into a little study of "behavior modification" and "human response."

Simple: A stimulus (accent) creates a response (arousal). If the response is pleasant (most people enjoy being aroused), we'll tend to seek the stimulus. But that response can actually also become a stimulus... (arousal --> want sex!).

I'm not sure that answers the question of what constitutes a fetish, but I'll bet a lot of "fetishes" develop this way...

And you do realize that every British guy on this forum will probably pm you!?

[dancingdoc2]

Hi,
Age does not matter when it comes to learning. The dictionary is used daily by young and old alike, so no apology is needed. Here are two answers to your question for which you are in part, correct.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fetish

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_fetishism

[a.m.h.i.]

I actually read both those sites before I posted on here and still thought the term might still be too confined. But thanks anyway. : )

And I really like wally's idea of doing a study in behavior modification and human responses. I never thought of that as a possible solution. It'd be really interesting to know why exactly I'm so attracted to them. I've only known a handful of British people in my entire life and only a couple of them were males, so I don't think it's a response/stimulous sort of situation.

And no personal messages. Kind of relieved, actually. I was feeling kind of stupid for posting this in here.

[dancingdoc2]

Don't feel stupid. The only dumb question is the one not asked.

[WallyLlama]

My comment about the personal messages was, of course, meant to be funny... Human are somewhat creatures of habit. We speak, for example, of "knee jerk reactions" - a sort of intuitive response to a sitution that often happens before the rational mind kicks into gear.

If you delve a little I think you'll find an opportunity for personal development, "fetishes" aside. It is a stimulus response situtation, but one that developed unawares for reasons that are probably fascinating and equally likely elusive.

One thing you are likely to discover in your study is that we can train our instincts and reactions... or, actually train out (and in) reactions.

The problem is that if you're not careful, you can train/teach the wrong thing. There is a great story that demonstrates this... a father with two boys who swore relentlessly. The child pyschologist suggested behavior modificatin... every time the boys swore, the father was to hit them. Stimulus swearing, response pain.

The next morining the father asked the first boy what he wanted for breakfast. The boy replied, "Pass the damn cornflakes." Remembering the advice, the father backhanded the boy causing him to fall out of the chair.

He turned to the second boy. "Now, what do you want for breakfast?"

He looked at his brother laying on the floor and replied, "I'm not sure but you can bet your ass it ain't gonna be no damn cornflakes!"