Aroused or not ?

[fire1041]

My wife doesnt seem to get "wet" for me anymore. We have watched porn together before and this gets her"flowing". I cant help be offended at the idea that i can spend 20 minuites rubbing her back and thighs, sucking her toes and touching her body as sensually as possible, only to arrive at her labia, spred them gently, and find that she is dry. What's up ? Im sure if a woman did the same only to find her man still limp, she would be equally as insulted, true???

[thetease13]

"Wetness" does not truly determine how much a woman is turned on so I wouldn't say it's fair to compare a limp penis to a woman being dry or wet. Some people are naturally wet. Some are naturally pretty dry. And depending on where we are in our cycle also depends on how wet or dry we may be. It also varies with age.

If dryness is a problem other than you just seeming to be insulted by it, i.e. it won't go in or it's hard to go in, then I suggest lube.
Other than that, I wouldn't sweat it so.

[Luvs2plzU]

Kinda of an interesting dilemna going on there....us guys seem to think that if "they are wet"...THEY....must want it....and if THEY are dry...something is wrong???...I think this is for the most part biological and has to do with stages of life....maybe she's still thinking horny...but her body isn't acting horny...where earlier...her body might have been acting horny and she wasn't thinking horny...is she telling you she doesn't want to do the dirty deed??? or is it just her body hinting it isn't ready yet??....I'm a doctor...but not in real life...just on TV....stolen from Joey Tribulone...

[fire1041]

O.K. , We have been married for just over a year. The wetness was never an issue before, but the past 3 months or so, it has become common. I introduced the porn movie , at my wifes agreement, and "wahlah", WETNESS WAS PLENTIFULL !! So, to say age, time of day, life cycle and such are factors seems irrelevent. We are both in our early 30s, no kids, good jobs and so on. I understand that not every sexual encounter is going to be " TOP NOTCH" , still, I cant help but feel like somethings changed in our love life.

[Brandye]

What do you think keeps "personal lubricants" on the market?

[fire1041]

good point. I assumed the majority of personal lubes are used for masturbation, sex toys and anal. not regular intercorse.

[Browser]

Sex without lube can be painful for all parties involved.

[dancingdoc2]

I believe you need to take stock of two things.

T#1 is to talk to her about her lack of wetness and what she thinks it means or doesn't mean.

T#2 is that you monitor her state of arousal. If she is a willing participant in your activities, is enjoying them and seems to be in tune with you, then suggest using a lube and get on with it.

Maybe it is just me/us, but I usually wait for my wife to invite me inside. Of course there are those times when we instinctively know I should just proceed on to that stage or even to "take her" so it is something the two of you work out. My wife has been dry now and then and it caused me to wonder in the first couple of times I encountered this. Saliva saved the night.

[sexjeff]

I'd probably lick it.