need help

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hey guys, ive been with my girlfriend for a few years now, shes not really into anything sexual, and well, im trying to change that, ive given her all the time she needs and well, im tired of waiting. i know she really wants to have sex, but shes nervous about it, and im trying really hard to make her feel comftorable. she told me that she wants me to just sweep her off her feet one night. so im planning on taking her out to dinner, then we are going back to her place. ive never really been the one to start talking to a girl seductively, and well i need ur feedback on this 1. im planning on saying something like this
hey baby, you know what i wanna do right now, wrap my arms around you, give you the most passionate kiss youve ever had, take you up to your room, lay you down, slowly undress you, kiss every inch of your body, and then il do anything you want.
what do u guys think?

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When I first got started, my girlfriend (at the time) and I would make out in a nice secluded spot. As we continued this, we gradually went farther, until we were having sex on a regular basis.

[rollin]

ive tried it, shes told me before, over the phone, that she really just wants me to lay her down and just do it, but im just nervous bout doin that, and i think i put this in wrong thread... sry im new

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I'm new here too

If she really wants to have sex, and you're also willing, sometime you two just have to go somewhere and do it. Try a nice, romantic dinner followed by a makeout session in a movie and then a trip to the basement on a night that the parents arn't home (if you're young) or carrying her to the bedroom and engaging in more foreplay. While you're kissing, try to get her aroused and gradually start taking off her clothing. Make sure there's always contact, so you keep her distracted until you both are nude. Right before you're about to have sex, ask her again if she really wants to. If she's aroused, you're alone, and she's not too scared, it'll probably happen. Please, please use protection if it does!

Anyone else have advice for him? That's what's worked in my experience.

[rollin]

thanks man, the thing that kills me about her is weve tried to before, shes just wont ever talk about it, shes to afraid to, any ideas how to get her to just say wat she really wants to? besides makin her comftorable? any good ways to start a conversation bout sex? wow im such a nub with all this haha

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Honestly, every girlfriend I've ever had has been confortable with the concept of sex, so I haven't done that either. Tell her she's beautiful. Can't hurt. If she starts to panic, just soothe her and back off. Just slowly, gradually build up. If there's anything she especially likes, do it before you make a run for the goods. Make sure she doesn't think about having sex until she's completely aroused and read to start.

[WallyLlama]

I know this will sound like a wet blanket, but one thing that needs to be part of this "foreplay" is a healthy discussiion about birth control.

Beyond that I'd observe that if she's not ready she's not ready. And, in the broader sense, if you (both) aren't ready, you aren't ready. This is supposed to be something you do together. It is not something you do to her.

I'm sure this will also sound like preaching, but just because you want to do something that doesn't mean you should or are ready to do it. There are a lot of consequences (besides getting pregnant) that deserve some thought.

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Correct. I didn't mean to imply that anything should be done without her will.

Relationships arn't all about sex. Sometimes you just have dry spells, but stick with her if it's a positive relationship. If there's a serious attatchment, she's worth more than someone else who just gets you off.

[sexy_angel]

is it possible she's scared because of something that happened in the past? It's a possibility.

how old are you guys anyway? I think that makes a difference also....as well as family upbringing and stuff.

[fire1041]

The whole dinner thing sounds kinda dull. Depending on how deep your pockets are, Id try something that doesnt involve food. Maybe a hot air balloon ride, horseback riding, something outdoors that will stand out to her. Its her virginity, the only one she has. It seems like your hesitation is also key. I f she told you she just wants you to "sweep her off her feet" than do it. If you wait too long, someone else is going to do the "sweeping"..