I don't know what's wrong with him :(

[baby girl]

I have been going out with my bf for over one year and when we have sex he cums quick i dunno wut to do. Sometimes he cums before even penetration. What do I do or what do you think is wrong?

[dancingdoc2]

There is nothing wrong, per se.

> when we have sex he cums quick i dunno wut to do.

The situation stems from him becoming extremely aroused as would be the case when we are in the presence of a lover. When there is "chemistry" and the "sparks" fly between you then our nerves become hyper sensitive and sometimes after being aroused manually and/or orally, even the least little movment or touch of the penis is enough to trigger an orgasm.

When having intercourse, the condition is called "Premature Ejaculation". I have written extensively on the topic. Do a search of the site using my name and you will find complete information on the why of and the how to of an exercise that will fix the problem. In addition to the exercise the two of you can work on is the "Squeeze techinque" Brandye is in favor of that works in the heat of the moment to sidetrack a climax.

[Brandye]

Not at all unusual. Look around the board and this is a major topic - usually brought up by men. As a teen, I made it a habit to jack my partner off as part of foreplay. It slowed him down and got me more cuddling. It also slowed down his ejaculation once he was inside me.

I have ended up with handfuls as a result of trying to roll the condom on. There is always more where that came from. Treat it as part of the process and keep on going.

Do not develop unrealistic expectations. Lasting long enough to bring you off by thrusting is not likely for a while. And many of us women never get off that way, anyway.

[funlovingman01]

Originally Posted by baby girl

I have been going out with my bf for over one year and when we have sex he cums quick i dunno wut to do. Sometimes he cums before even penetration. What do I do or what do you think is wrong?

I think you are lucky that he's a quickie. I have always had this problem of going on and on and on. Few of my partners complained that they are sore. Not that I can't cum fast. It is just that I like to make it last for ever...feels so heavenly to be perpetually joined and "working". Mercifully many of the ladies have been kind to me and we could continue. The longest we had was about 3 hours at the end of which we both slept like logs and missed our work next day. After that I have been watchful and been keeping it under 1 and half hour and 2 hours maximum. Sometimes it bothers me and I begin to think if i am normal to be "workin" like a maniac. Grateful for any lights shed on this. Atleast I can then confirm if I am being a maniac.

[funlovingman01]

Originally Posted by baby girl

I have been going out with my bf for over one year and when we have sex he cums quick i dunno wut to do. Sometimes he cums before even penetration. What do I do or what do you think is wrong?

I think you are lucky that he's a quickie. I have always had this problem of going on and on and on. Few of my partners complained that they are sore. Not that I can't cum fast. It is just that I like to make it last for ever...feels so heavenly to be perpetually joined and "working". Mercifully many of the ladies have been kind to me and we could continue. The longest we had was about 3 hours at the end of which we both slept like logs and missed our work next day. After that I have been watchful and been keeping it under 1 and half hour and 2 hours maximum. Sometimes it bothers me and I begin to think if i am normal to be "workin" like a maniac. Grateful for any lights shed on this. Atleast I can then confirm if I am not being a maniac.

[funlovingman01]

ooops .. sorry. clicked wrong button and got posted twice..

[Brandye]

OOOps, after twenty minutes I would dump you on the floor.

[funlovingman01]

awwww thats very unkind of you. abandoning me like that lol. So you mean you never go longer than 20 minutes? such a waste of time.. hehe

[ageless_gypsy]

Twenty minutes is the quickest we're ever able to manage. Usually. I think 3 hours would be a little overboard, though.

[learning]

Depending on the intensity and the situation sex/love making can last between minutes and hours. It really is about how sensitive/aroused one is and the kind of stimuli you are subjected to.

Baby Girl, don't worry to much, try the advice given by Brandye and research as adviced by Dancingdoc2, they post some great advice.