I need help! what do you do when...

[champloo]

ok...tonight, while at church, my girlfriend called.

now, she has been irritated at me, for something we HAVE talked about, and im working on things and stuff like that.

but that's not the issue...

she called me, and i could tell right away something was VERY VERY VERY wrong. she sounded soo weak and sooo deppressed it was scary...

im practically begging her to tell me whats the matter, as i began to hear her cry and bawl her eyes out..

finally, she tells me that her best friend (morgan), that her mom died.

im hearing this, and shes really having a hard time saying it. i didnt know the lady, and i dont really know the friend that well. all these thoughts run through my mind. i wanted to comfort her in ANY way possible, but i didnt want to make her mad, or do anything to upset her more.

if there's one thing i know, its that morgan and my girlfriend loved morgan's mom DEARLY.

but, now, i have no IDEA what to do tommorow, when (if??) i see her at school. the only thing i really can think of is hugging her neck and telling her im sorry.

but what can i do?

[LittleFury]

You give her a hug, you tell her that you are there for her, that you are sorry, wish that bad things did not happen like that, and then you shut up and let her do what she needs to do. She can either pull away, or mgiht cuddle up to you, she might cry, or rant. Let her do what she needs to do. All you can really do is be there for her, show her that you are there for her and be sweet and strong for her.

[champloo]

ty for the answer.

thats probably what i will do.

[champloo]

damnit.

man this sucks.

alright. the day came, she was mad at everyone...funny...she cried more than the person who's mom died.

today, she calls me. turns out one of her friends has began to uhh....bawl my gf out. well, i wasnt at school today for something (school related) and she is telling me about this....and now i have this MASSIVE problem. and, its really making me mad.

but i just answered myself so it is alll good.

[stormtrooperdude]

Heres one mans opinion: It is not your place to "defend" your girlfriend from her friend. Now if her friend is ranting to you about your girlfriend it would be your job to politely disagree. Highschool girls are always having a lot of drama. I advise not to get in the middle.

This takes place in school correct? Even if it were a male causing problems, I would advice you not to beat him up. Talk to a Dean or something. Trust me it may sound like your a wimp now, but you will thank yourself in the future when you are trying to get into college and they deny you because of a fight freshman year. (I'm guessing your a freshman in highschool by your age.)

[champloo]

alright thanks..

actually im in 8th grade.....last semester.

lol,she called me back, and then told me to forget it (it was one of her chick friends) because if i did something, it would not be sincere.

ah well. ive kinda answered my question.

[LittleFury]

It is somewhat typical of girls, especially of younger girls. Any time we got a bf, we want him to stand up for us. Then we are younger, sometimes we take it beyound what is reasonable. Realise, in 8th grade, a girl is not going to be on the same maturity level as she will in her 20s. And, even speaking from looking back to when I was a teenager, girls like drama. A lot do. And a lot will look back and think that if they went back in time, they would never do some of the things that they did. It's just the facts of life. Don't stress too much. Just enjoy life, and focus on your studying and not at appeasing some girl.

[champloo]

lol ok

she wanted me to forget about it anyway...lol

dont worry, im ahead in my acedemics

[ShadesRuda]

Girls LOVE drama. And half the time we don't even realize that if there is nothing to bitch about we muster something up.

You can't babysit her. The best you can do is offer support where you CAN give it.
And yeah, she's definitely not mature at her age. Most people don't reach their peak until they're about 25 or 26, that's when they become the person they'll likely always be.

I've always felt sorry for you guys for having to deal with our breakdowns when it's usually never about you.
But good luck to you, you're a brave lad.

[batman527]

Sorry Champ, there's nothing you can do here other than be here for her. A girl that I graduated with lost her mother and her grandmother when they were both hit by a car while crossing the street to watch HER trackmeet. There is nothing you can do to make her feel better, just be there for whatever she needs. I'm sorry to hear about all of this going happening, I'll keep her and her friend in my prayers tonight.