Need advice about relationship!!

[germain]

I have no idea what is wrong with me and I feel that I can't talk to anyone about this, not even my boyfriend or my friends. I have been with my boyfriend now for over two years but it feels as though things are slowly getting worse. We live together but rarely see each other because he spends all of his time playing video games while I do all the housework and take care of our dog. We don't talk about anything anymore, we never have sex anymore, we never hangout or go out to a restaurant or anything like that. Also, I can't stop thinking about what it would be like to go out with someone else, or just to have a fling with some other guy, maybe even sex. There was once this guy that I used to see at a certain time every day at the university cafe but we never spoke to one another but always noticed that the other person was there. I think he had a girlfriend and was too shy to approach me and I too have a boyfriend and did not feel that it was right to talk to him. We would constantly pass each other or always have a break from classes at the same time. This went on for over two semesters of school and I cannot stop thinking about him and the other day I seen him for the first time and almost cried because it was like he was the one I never got or something. I think about this guy all the time and oddly enough I masturbate to him every morning after my boyfriend leaves. Help! Any advice?

[Brandye]

This situation is not going to get better by itself. You need to take some action. Like move out.

[babalaza]

I would say, leave ur bf, KEEP the dog and move on..

[AptPupil]

move on girl, it doesnt sound like he loves you, and if hes not getting it from you hes getting it from someone else. You deserve better.

[Tessie]

It's time to move on for you both. If you're not passionate and excited about the relationship and feeling you're getting the same from him why stay? Don't you deserve better then that?

[moose_hd]

Originally Posted by Brandye

This situation is not going to get better by itself. You need to take some action. Like move out.

Aside from this obviously sound advice, does your bf need help for video game addiction? Some of those games can be so incredibly addictive. Depending on your personality, you can become totally helpless and sucked in, and even if you want to put it down, you can't. Seriously, back in the 90s I went and deleted my online games accounts because they were taking over my life. Maybe this guy needs some help to do the same thing.

[wifey]

Originally Posted by moose_hd

Aside from this obviously sound advice, does your bf need help for video game addiction? Some of those games can be so incredibly addictive. Depending on your personality, you can become totally helpless and sucked in, and even if you want to put it down, you can't. Seriously, back in the 90s I went and deleted my online games accounts because they were taking over my life. Maybe this guy needs some help to do the same thing.

yeah i agree with moose on this one.

my boyfriend went through a stage like that last year when he was working full time and only had computer games/play station on his mind in the evenings. it was like those games were his entire world, i.e. he'd be so consumed in them that when i used to come over to see HIM after work i'd find myself talking to his back. so a few times i just got up and left... at which point it became apparent to him that something was wrong and we sat down for a talk. he hasn't completely ditched playing games but doesn't spend his entire free time in front of a screen anymore.

so my point is you'll have to tell or show your bfnd how he makes you feel and see where it takes you. you mastrubating to another guy might make your attempt to sort things out a little bit difficult. i, personally, see emotional/non-physical cheating as cheating and would not want to be with a person who in their time away from me fantisizes about someone else. if you don't have any kind of feelings for your bfnd anymore and are living with him out of convenience than you should concider moving on...

best of luck!

[Sweetness12]

I had a similar problem to this.. I moved out, kept the cat and most of the stuff we bought together ( Ex- our bed)

[champloo]

dont ditch him juuuust yet.

first find out whats what (like what everyone else said) and then...

if he shrugs you off..i mean if you try to talk to him during his video game..

then kick his ass and leave....and then go find that guy you masturbate to.

[baseballcatchinglegend]

i had a situation kind of similar with my x-gf. when i was with her i thought about this other girl a lot and wanted to be with them. id think about what it would be like if we had sex and even imagined it was them doing it. i think your relationship is going down the drain. sorry to say that but it just seems that way. if you see that guy again talk to him, get his number and play things by ear.

but if you still do love your bf do what champlo says, very sound advice